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The other day I asked my barber if he would cut this gentleman’s
hair that was in the shop. The gentleman was obviously gay and being in the Caribbean
I know the ‘straight’ men perceive gay men. He told me yes he would and how
that barber shop has about a 30% gay clientele. He then went onto say how he
respects every human choice on this planet and how he has known me for 10 years
and I never told him that I am gay and it doesn't bother him. I just smiled and said, ‘I am not hiding my
sexuality, however I am not broadcasting it to the entire world.’ He shook his
head as if in agreement with what I said to him.
This little chat brings something to mind about how many persons
out there assume that many of us are hiding our sexuality, never mind that NO
one comes out as straight, but I digress. I know for a fact that I haven’t affirmed
my sexuality with my barber (or anyone else that don't know) because I was afraid. I haven't simply because it is my sexuality and it is a non-issue in my book. I live
a human existence and I don’t believe that one’s sexuality should be
broadcast to every corner of the world nor should it be something to be ashamed about. I live in a place
where sexuality isn't the entire being and the obsession society has with homosexuality
needs an overhaul.
Gay sexual obsession is displayed painfully in the barbershops and
other areas of society. But even though some in society say they are gay
friendly and accepting, most people are as willing to admit to the exclusionary
aspects of their tolerance for homosexuality just as the rich are willing to give away
all of their wealth. Nonetheless, I find that being silent or ambiguous about
one’s sexuality can be complicated to some, but I find that I rather they are the
confused ones when it comes to my sexuality.
I agree with you 100%! I may be gay all day, but I'm not openly gay to everyone that I encounter. Sexuality is something private and those who need to know, do. Those who don't, it's none of their business. Great post, my naked brother!
ReplyDeleteyeah I don't his (my barber) logic when it comes to my not telling him that I am gay despite the fact that he suspected that I am.
DeleteMost people that know me know that I'm gay...but too I don't try to broadcast it either I'm not hiding it. I feel better this way than I did when I was in the closet.
ReplyDeleteyeah the closet is that element that makes things harder in so many ways, thanks for your comment :)
DeleteOf course I respect everyone's right to come out openly as gay in their own manner. But, that being said.. I do believe that until Gays everywhere are given all the exact same rights and respect as ever Straight Person..it is your duty to be totally out and open about who you sleep with..
ReplyDeletestraight people have such a strange way of thinking about this sexuality thing
DeleteWow, that's so true!
ReplyDeletethank you
DeleteGreat post!
ReplyDeleteMy right to privacy is sacred to me; I am obviously a male, I am obviously Caucasian and I am an American. That is all I feel compelled to broadcast. Everything else about me is nobody's business (or concern) unless I choose to tell them or correct any misinformation they may have concluded on their own.
YES!
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