I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Saturday, April 30, 2011



"Journey to the Past" is a song written by Lynn Ahrens and Stephen Flaherty for the 1997 animated film Anastasia. The song was originally recorded by actress Liz Callaway to be included in the film and was later re-recorded by singer Aaliyah as an pop-R&B single to promote the soundtrack.[1]
The pop single version samples Michael Jackson's "Human Nature". It became a moderately successful pop hit in the UK. "Journey to the Past" was also nominated for an award for Best Original Song at the ceremony that year. The song did not chart on the Billboard Hot 100 when it was released it only received minor Hot Adult Contemporary airplay in the U.S. It stayed on the chart for only 4 weeks. The song was released to U.S. radio on April 1, 1998 as the soundtracks second single.
Aaliyah performed "Journey to the Past" at the 1998 Academy Awards, becoming the youngest African-American woman to perform in the awards show's history.
The music video begins in a modern-day American neighborhood on a seemingly warm day. Aaliyah is seen singing in the windows of a small grocery store and on the street where children are playing. Tying in to the theme of going back to the past, Aaliyah goes back and forth from the real modern-day world to the animated world of Russia in the 1920s[1], the time in which Anastasia is set. She is then seen in several of the movie's iconic scenes such as balancing on a log with Anastasia behind her, out in the snow where the "Journey to the Past" song is featured in the film, in the ballroom in the "Once Upon a December" sequence, ascending the lift in the Eiffel Tower (the "Paris Holds the Key (To Your Heart)" scene) and on stage in the Russian ballet scene. The fountains of Jardins du Trocadéro can be seen briefly. The music video ends with her sitting on the rooftop seemingly overlooking the final scene in which Dimitri and Anya kiss and finally on the clouds above St. Petersburg with the children.

Thursday, April 28, 2011


The gay world is often represented as some sort of monolithic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down into a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are. Just like the world at large may stereotype gays as mincing wrist flippers with great taste bent on giving everyone they meet a make over. A queer will tell you that we are all individuals and that those stereotypes are false and horrible. That said, when the gays see a fellow homosexual in the public sphere, we try to plug them into the convenient taxonomy the community has made for itself. That's right, we have our own stereotypes for each other, and they're much more specific than you can ever imagine. They may not be very familiar to the world at large, but they are certainly familiar to the brothers in butt fucking.

To say that each gay person belongs to one of these types is a bit deceptive. It's like saying that every woman is either a Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, or Samantha. There are plenty that fit the mold for each squarely, but most are really a combination of the types, or like to think of themselves as individuals, even though they still have many of the traits from one of the pre-selected identities. These aren't the stereotypes of the world at large, they are the ones we have invented for ourselves, and they are just as reductive. Each of the groups tend to hang around only with members of the same groups, and they all have their own bars, parties, music, customs, ways of dress, and intricate mating rituals. Please, meet the homosexuals.


Body Type: Thin, smooth, often blond, usually with longish bangs and often with highlights.

Description: This young breed of gays is never over 30 and tends to be on the queeny side and hews closely to the conventional stereotypes of gay man. Wild, ornery, and still getting over their coming out issues, the twink is the gay gone wild, and is bait to older men who are into trying to suck off their youthful energy.

Subcategories: The Twunk, the Gay-sian, the A&F boy.

New York City Hang Out: Rush, Campus Thursdays at Splash
Diva of Choice: Lady Gaga

: Fashion, drama, partying, hooking up, college, coming out
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Zac Efron


Body Type: Large, hairy, often with facial hair

Description: The bigger, generally older subset of the population is new but increasingly popular both in the community and pop culture. They have their own social calendar that is well populated with events to support the flannel-clad butch lifestyle of beards and beer guts.

Subcategories: Cubs, Otters, Wolfs, Gorillas

New York City Hang Out: Woof!, Snaxx, Nowhere
Diva of Choice: Cyndi Lauper

: Food, hair, coming up with silly bear puns, Tom Colicchio
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Kevin Smith

Gay Jocks

Body Type: Athletic, muscular, possibly gone-to-seed

Description: This guy prides himself on the fact that no one thinks he is gay until he tells them. His love of sports is just about the only unaffected aspect of his masculinity. He wears T-shirts and ball caps with his favorite team logo, and likes guys who are "non-scene," unless the scene is a gay sports team.

Subcategories: Gay football players, gay soccer plays, gay rugby players, etc.

New York City Hang Out: Gym Bar
Diva of Choice: The guy who sings "Are You Ready for some Football."

: Passing, talking tough, locker rooms, fantasy football
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Esera Tualo

Circuit Boys

Body Type: Muscular, waxed, preened, most usually with tribal tattoos

Description: This subset rose to prominence in the '90s around the drug-fueled, all-night dance parties that were in different cities around the country. While it has few new recruits, its core population is die-hard and aging quickly. Many of the parties have died off, but they're still dancing to bad tribal house wherever they can.

Subcategories: Tweekers, muscle Marys, those queens who twirl flags at dance parties

New York City Hang Out: Alegria
Diva of Choice: Deborah Cox remixed by Junior Vasquez

: Pecs, ecstasy, house music, conformity, backne, the afterparty
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: This is such a specific type it doesn't really exists in the world at large, but the Platonic ideal of a circuit boy is DJ Brett Henrichsen


Body Type: Body toned by the personal trainer, hair done by celebrity stylist, wardrobe picked out at Barneys

Description: These are the uppity homos who live the good life, and are generally too good for you. They only like to talk to each other. They usually work in advertising, PR, marketing, or the entertainment industry and make a ton of cash which they use to have perfect apartments, fantastic wardrobes, and summer homes near all the other gay-listers. You can try to get invited to their parties, but you will never belong.

Subcategories: Power gays, the velvet mafia

New York City Hang Out: Beige
Diva of Choice: They're probably friends with Madonna

: Looking good, work, HRC dinners, summering as a verb, what everyone else is doing, hooking up with each other, the steam room at the gym
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Andy Cohen

Show Queens

Body Type: They come in all shapes and sizes, from the young, spry dancer to the balding, pudgy critic.

Description: These are the kids who are so gay they could never fit in during high school and sought refuge in the music department. They have devoted their lives to performing, show tunes, and learning all the words to very obscure songs. They often work in theater or the arts in one way or another, be it on the Great White Way or as a high school drama teacher.

Subcategories: They are only defined by which diva they love most.

New York City Hang Out: Marie's Crisis
Diva of Choice: Liza, Judy, Barbra, Elaine Stritch, Patti LuPone, Ethel Merman, Sutton Foster, Bernadette Peters

: Original cast recordings, collecting Playbills, karaoke, out of town previews, Puck on Glee's abs, outing Hugh Jackman
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Neil Patrick Harris

Art Fags

Body Type: Emaciated, tattooed, usually with some sort of ironic facial hair and an enormous coif.

Description: The art fag is cooler than you. He's also cooler than all your friends, and he is not afraid to show it. He is usually an artist (duh), photographer, fashion designer, band member, or something that requires a degree from RISD, FIT, or some other art school that is an acronym. He dresses either in the most current prissy fashions or like a homo version of Terry Richardson, in big glasses, flannels, and jeans that looks so thrown together that it took him hours to put together. You're more likely to find them at a gallery opening or model party, but every so often they'll be at a gay bar to rub elbows, and other parts, with the other homos.

Subcategories: Alternaqueers, gipsters

New York City Hang Out: The Cock
Diva of Choice: Peaches
Preoccupations: The hottest club, looking down on things, cheap coke, being bohemian, the outer boroughs
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: Marc Jacobs

Drag Queens

Body Type: Either big, buxom Divine style or svelte and RuPaul-esque.

Description: This is a very small but very powerful contingent of the gay population. The drag queens are not only the court jesters of the gay community, dressing up like clowns for our entertainment, but they are also a bridge to the straight world. As much as gay men appreciate the queens for their looks, wit, and shade, straight people love a drag show even more than the queers do. Somehow they manage to be the most outrageous segment of the population and the most embraced, making the rest of us look positively boring by comparison.

Subcategories: Club kids, trannies.

New York City Hang Out: Pick a bar, any bar.
Diva of Choice: Oh, honey. They are each their own diva.
Preoccupations: Shade, wigs, annoying jerks who ask for too many drink tickets, other queens biting off their look, lip syncing, straight guys
Top or Bottom: Bottom
Celebrity Example: RuPaul


Wednesday, April 27, 2011


Premature ejaculation SUCKS! Sometimes it's biological your body just behaves this way; sometimes it's due to training because when you first started exploring your body you needed to make it quick so that you wouldn't get caught by a parent or sibling. But as an adult how do you handle it when you are either end of the 'stick'?


Tuesday, April 26, 2011


When you first met him he was funny, sharp, and quick-witted. He is the highlight of the party, the one who could entertain a group with his snarky comment. But after a while, he stops being funny and is often referred to as the resident "bitch." Do you think that the ‘bitchy queen’ is too much to deal with? Gay society says that a strong point of view is good, and while the ‘bitchy queen’ can make one blunt or opinionated, those traits offer a certain entertainment value but it does it REALLY provides one with quality relationships? I am of the opinion that life being a bitch doesn't mean one has to be one. Do you love/loathe your resident ‘bitchy queen’?


    The winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race, America’s Next Drag Superstar, is…RAJA! Surprise? Not for us here Raja completely dominated the competition this year. 
    The episode came down to a battle between Raja and Manila. (Alexis Mateo, despite all her bam!-filled efforts and pageant-esque looks, was booted before the final lip synch between Raja and Manila.) Much of the rather tame hour focused on the final three making a music video for RuPaul’s “Champion.” That situation was rather unthrilling, with the most excitement coming whenever wackadoo coreographer Ryan Heffington showed up on stage, wearing his red toga and various necklaces. (Where’s his reality show? Please?)
    Alexis, of course, brought her signature big-ass hair, which caused much controversy during the video shoot. Was it sexy? Could she rock it and still rock a silhouette? Was it bigger than Michelle Visage’s weave? Was it appropriate for the other queens to blame the big wig on why they were doing so poorly? (“They trying to blame my hair!” Alexis said at one point. Later she explained: “The bigger the hair, the closer to God.” Right.)
    As has become standard during the Drag Race finales, Ru sat down with each of her final gals for “lunch,” which so bitingly consisted of one solo Tic Tac for each party. “What is this? Thanksgiving?” quipped the eventual winner Raja when she spotted the spread. The “lunch” that Ru throws for the girls, however, always elicits some great moments. Alexis took the opportunity to revel in how far she’d come: “I am very sure,” the queen said, “that I am perfect.” Meanwhile, Raja said hi to her loved ones: “Hi, Mom. Hi, Dad. Look, I’m sitting with RuPaul.”
    Finally, we arrived at the runway. One thing you could say about all three queens was that they all certainly served exactly who they were. Alexis came as a (err?) dainty pink showgirl, in a get-up (complete with parasol) that would have made even Elizabeth Berkley blush. Manila looked ravishing and bodacious in a lime-green gown perfectly in line with her usual looks. And Raja, well, the judges commented that her outfit looked like All That Jazz, and it certainly did, as Raja seemed to be pushing the boundaries between genders here with cabaret fierceness. (Well, I mean, as if the whole show weren’t doing that already.)
    Alexis was quickly jettisoned. Michelle Visage — who had hair so sky-high it looked like she should have been competing herself — told her: “You were not one I expected to see in the final three.” That cleared the way for Raja and Manila to complete their lip sync to — yes, the Ru product placement didn’t stop! — to RuPaul’s “Champion.” (Yes, again.) It was a tame lip synch, actually, that ended in what seemed to be a heartfelt hug between the final two gals. (Although, why no use of “Superstar”? I’m really loving that song right now, but I guess they already showed it a lot of love this season.)
    The final judging panel tried to size Manila and Raja up as equal competitors. (But like, c’mon…) However, Santino summed it up best when he said of Raja: “Bitch is bad.” Manila eventually was told to “sashay away”: “Manila, you are an inspiration,” Ru said. “I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Now, sashay away.” The most genius sound bite of the night actually goes to Manila, who quipped right after her offing, “I’m first runner up, so maybe if Raja dies of old age, maybe I’ll get the crown.” Brilliant. Her constant jokes about Raja’s old age (she’s 36!) were totally on point.
    But it was somehow gratifying to see Raja take home the (hugely, gaudily, obnoxious) crown: Raja certainly has the charisma, uniqueness, nerve, and talent to do justice to the title. Well, certainly more so, than, say, last year’s rather personality-less winner Tyra, but we’ll have to see if she can top season 1′s winner, the delightful BeBe Zahara Benet.
    “Now, prance, I say!” a positively giddy Ru said, after putting the hideous thing on Raja’s head. “Prance, my queen!” And what did Raja have to say at the end? “The cash is mine, and I am America’s Next Drag Superstar!” That you are, queen.
    Look for my interview with Raja here on EW’s PopWatch on Tuesday afternoon. If you have any questions for Raja, leave them in the comments below, and I’ll be sure to ask her.
    But now: Tell me what you think of the outcome of season 3, Drag Racers! Happy? Pissed? Sad? Never gonna watch Drag Race again? Should Manila or Alexis have won? Will you shower Raja with the appropriate level of accolades for being crowned America’s Next Drag Superstar?

    • Main Challenge: Participate in the filming of the music video for RuPaul's song "Champion"

    • Eliminated: Alexis Mateo

    • Farewell Message: Always know your place. The jig is up! Siempre, Alexis

    • Lip Synch Song: "Champion"

    • Runner-Up: Manila Luzon

    • Winner of RuPaul's Drag Race Season 3: Raja


    Scream 4,is the latest installment in the Scream slasher film franchise with some influx of fresh blood namely: Hayden Panettiere, Emma Roberts and Rory Culkin. In the latest outing, ten years have now passed and Sidney (Neve Campbell), now a successful author returns to Woodsboro on a book tour. True to form, whenever Sidney is around,the slashers come out and people start turning up dead. With evidence planted in the back of her rental,Sidney is prevented to leave town and the return of ghostface puts her and the whole town in danger.

    What's Good About the Movie:

    A surprising plot twist at the end that we didn't see coming. This would pretty much leave you with your mouth ajar, I know it had that effect on me. This for me was the best thing about the whole film.

    There were some fairly good slasher scenes and scenes to make you probably cringe and even jump a bit.

    What's Bad about the Movie:

    Not to give away the plot of the movie but some scenes just didn't make sense and it felt like the characters were extremely foolish which led to their demise. Ghostface just had to show up and the victims pretty much did the job for him.

    Overall Grade: D,despite having a plot twist that took me by surprise,the overall movie was disappointing compared to the other movies in the Sequel. 

    Monday, April 25, 2011


    When it comes to LOVE, our minds can come up with millions of reasons why we shouldn't express it to that special someone; which is EXACTLY why we should. A lot of us have the misconception that we might be able to imply to that person that is seeking to hear it from us. Maybe on some other level of consciousness that can work, but here on earth when it comes to the "L" word we need to speak it into being. The fear of the "L" word can cause one to miss out on SO much...Have you ever been afraid of the "L" word? Have you ever been on the  receiving end of hearing those from someone you loved?


    Sunday, April 24, 2011


    Easter is here, and since MANY consider Jesus to be THE Brad Pitt of gods, it's time for prideful gay hats to courageously come out and honour the man MANY believe rose from the dead on this day. 
    Jim Caviezel in The Passion of the Christ (2004)

    Jeremy Sisto in Jesus in 1999 four-hour NBC mini-series.

    Christian Bale in Mary, Mother of Jesus a 1999 Hallmark presentation.

    Ted Neely in Jesus Christ, Superstar.

    Henry Ian Cusick in The Gospel of John2004 three-hour where he portrayed Jesus

    Robert Powell in Jesus of Nazareth a 1977 six-hour mini-series.

    Willem Dafoe in The Last Temptation of Christ a 1988 film, with the suggestion that Jesus may have been tempted.