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Wednesday, April 6, 2016


I don’t know about you, but I appreciate my “me” time just as much as I love our “we” time. My man is fabulous in bed, but every once in a while I need to remind myself of what I have cooking. After all, sex doesn’t require two people.

Since discovering the act of masturbation, I’ve pushed aside all limits for myself. With only me to please, it’s much easier to get exactly what I want. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, masturbating is more than just getting off. It’s about getting to know your potential through self-investigation. After years of getting to know myself, I’m still discovering new things and I’m loving every second of it. Here are a few techniques you can use to take your “me” time to a whole new level:

#1) The Praying Orgasm
Take some warming lube and rub it between your hands, then place them both on either side of your penis and interlock your fingers (as if you were praying). From there you can do anything you want, i.e. hump, stroke, bounce or jiggle your way to climax. It’s the best way to masturbate and pray for your sins at the same time. A win, win.

#2) Work With Your Non-Master Hand
Nothing will f**k your mind up more than jerking it with your non-master hand. Since I’m right-handed, every so often I’ll rub myself with my left hand till I’m fully aroused. Because it’s more difficult connecting the feeling to my brain, it’s closer to the real thing than anything else when you’re alone. My man and I love to do this separately during our private times and both of us have admitted to fantasizing about each other. It’s fabulous.

#3) Fleshlight Between Couch Cushions
When I was a child and first discovered the act of masturbation, I was eager to hump any hole I found, even the hidden crevices between furniture (don’t ask where). Fleshlights make it easy, especially when combined with warming gel. By placing the fleshlight in between the crevice of a couch cushion or anything else you might think of, it allows you to use your imagination to envision the real thing. There’s no need to be ashamed when it comes to your private time – no one will ever find out.

#4) Vapor Rubbing 
Vapor Rub has more secrets than meets the eye. Not only does it clear your congestion, but it allows you to have killer sensations during an orgasm. The hot and cold alternations between strokes can give you one hell of a body shiver. Whether your putting it physically on your penis or just rubbing it around the base or testicles, make sure you open yourself up to every tingle. Trust me, it’ll be worth it.

#5) Bag Full of Warm Jelly
A friend of mine told me about this one and though at first I was quite hesitant, when I decided to give it a try I was completely proven wrong. Grab any kind of bag you can, plastic preferably so you can toss it easily, and put warm jelly inside. Wrap it around your penis and jerk it as you normally would. The warm and gentle texture of the bag and jelly will create a feeling that’s nearly spot on. The best part about it is you can ejaculate inside then throw it away. Easy clean up.

#6) Dry Rubbing
I love to get my man hot and bothered while he’s in his undies. Because he has a sensitive penis, it makes it much more erotic. But he shouldn’t be the only one that gets all the fun. Whenever you’re in your underwear, gently rub the outer edge of where your penis is. Don’t reach under and grab your junk – not yet at least. Enjoy the sensations of dry rubbing from the outside. It speeds up the heart rate through sensualness alone, which creates a much higher need to reach climax.

        #7) Body Heat
Here’s a little trick. Wherever there is heat on your skin, the blood flow naturally migrates that direction. Whether it’s hot breath, warm jelly or even a warm bath, heat can take you to new heights. All an erection is, really, is blood flow. This is why we get shriveled in a cold climate. Work it to your advantage. Throw some socks in the microwave, get a heating pad and place it on your lower back, take a dip in the hot tub for second and let the heat entrap inside your body. Whatever you do, make sure it advances in the direction you want the blood to travel.

#8) Stop & Go 
I like to bring the idea of prolonged climaxes into my private time. Unless you’re in a hurry, there’s no need to rush an orgasm. The more you make it last, the better the reward will be once you reach it. Rub and Stroke for five minutes and take a break, then repeat until your body can’t take the anticipation any longer. Not only does it enhance the sensations but it opens you up to have a body orgasm as simultaneously.

#9) Ball Pulling
For those who like a little pain during sex, or even just something new, pull your balls a few seconds before you feel like you’re about to ejaculate. Not only does it give you a bigger explosion, but you can actually feel the semen passing through your body if you pay attention to the feeling.

#10) Over Investigate Your Body
Don’t just focus on the penis and testicles. There are so many pressure points you can be focusing on – don’t neglect them. Your neck, ass, legs, arms, back, head, feet, face and everything in between should be touched, grasped, rubbed and worshiped. There’s no such thing as too much compensation for erogenous zones. Give everything there well-needed attention.

#11) Re-enact Your Fantasy

I used to just lay on my back while I masturbated, but that was a long time ago. Unless you’re too tired to work with yourself, passively jerking just to get off can be a bit boring. If you love bottoming, bring your legs up and let your imagination take over (even bring in a toy). If you’re a top, roll over on your stomach and hump your hand as if it’s the real thing. Use your body to enhance the fantasy, not deplete it. There are so many options it’s ridiculous not to experiment from time to time.



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