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Friday, July 31, 2015
Thursday, July 30, 2015
THE BEAUTIFUL IMBALANCE
With gay men focusing more on outer appearance, and less on sexual
health and emotional wellbeing, this imbalance can impact on us as individuals
and as a community.
It’s a good thing that gay men are more inclined to take care of
their bodies. But a super-fit body doesn’t mean that you’ve got a super-healthy
mind. A lot of the men you see at gyms started going there because they felt
insecure about the way they looked and, truth to tell, no matter how hard you
pump your pecs there’s always going to be someone bigger, sleeker or more toned
than you. The insecurities that drive so many men to the gym usually don’t
evaporate, even if they do manage to acquire killer abs. It’s easy to get
insecure, especially on the scene. Insecurity itself is usually unattractive so
it can become a vicious spiral.
Unless we learn to prioritize our wellbeing over the façade, the
polarity of these conflicting needs may lead us to self-destruct. Attempts to
reconcile this hyper-vigilant fear of rejection with our super-groomed façades
are leading to a culture of self-medication with sex and drugs. We can deny it,
leave it to others to address, we can say it’s just a certain ‘type’ of gay
man. Or we can say it’s us, ourselves, our community that this is affecting and
deal with it.
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