This one is gonna be kinda long and kinda personal and very real.
One of the biggest fears in my life has been rejection. I'm not
sure why. I was never the most popular kid in school or in my neighborhood, but
I always had a plethora of friends in many different cliques. I was never
really rejected by anyone that I hung out with in one clique for hanging out
with people in another, yet I always feared being rejected. But as I've grown
older and continued down the road of adulthood, I have discovered that I truly
don't care as much about rejection anymore. And why should I? My friends will
like me for me, flaws and all. My family will love me for me. My peers will
respect me for my work. And complete strangers can think whatever they want,
because they're strangers and they don't know me.
That being said, it makes it much easier to post here publicly that
I'm gay.
For the longest time, I claimed that I was bisexual. When I privately
came out to people that already know, I told them that this was the case. And
it was. However, I have no real intentions of pursuing females at this stage of
my life. I still find beautiful women beautiful. I don't think that'll ever
change. But I think that to continue to claim something that's not true is just
continuing a streak of dishonesty, and I don't want that. Sorry, ladies. I'm
officially pulling myself off of the market. Don't hate me too bad.
Many of my closest friends have known since the tail end of 2013,
when I began the process of telling the people I felt should know. Some of them
"knew" for much longer due to their own assumptions or beliefs. My
parents know, and they support me. That should be enough, honestly. But still,
the speculation that comes from one's private life always seems to make its way
into the professional atmosphere, and that's unfair to me. I truly have nothing
to hide anymore. I spent the majority of my life lying, hiding and depressed
because I felt like I couldn't truly be who I wanted to be and live freely as I
saw fit. I had to act, and that's not me. I, nor anyone else, should have to do
that.
I never originally intended to make a public post about my private
life. I feel that private matters should stay just that. However, with the
constant speculation and discussion behind my back about a matter that could
easily be brought to my face, I felt that it would just be best if I silenced
everyone and told the truth publicly. Now, nobody has to suspect or assume what
I do behind closed doors. And to a large extent, I'm doing this for myself to
get rid of unneeded stress.
Professionally, I am exactly what the root of the word says: a
professional. The last thing I ever wanted was to make anyone feel
uncomfortable or uneasy. I don't believe that I've done that thus far, and
nothing is going to change now. Professional wrestling is the thing I love the
most and all I wanna do is entertain the fans, do what I love and continue the
excellent camaraderie I have with so many of the great people I've met over the
years. Hopefully, nothing changes, but if any relationships change from this
post, I'll know that I didn't need those people in my life, anyway.
I hope that the fans, the promoters and everyone else doesn't
change their opinion of me. I was the same person yesterday as I am right now,
just now, I have a bit more weight lifted off of my shoulders -- the stress,
depression and worrying that has always come from this is something nobody
should have to deal with. Depression is a very real thing, and some people
don't understand that. People oftentimes cannot empathize. But know this: We
are all human beings. We all have our own way, traits, personalities and things
that make us our own person. Keep that in mind.
To those who already knew and have supported me this far: thank
you. To those who have my back: thank you. Apologies to anyone I lied to or had
to keep this secret from. I shouldn't have had to do so, and if you're my
friend, I shouldn't have felt the need to keep it from you. Friends are friends
not because of who they're attracted to, but because friendship is real. To
anyone who has ever been scared of just being real and telling the truth, you
shouldn't be. Yes, I was. But if the people you care about -- or even those you
don't -- are good people, it won't matter... that's the way it SHOULD be.
Thanks for reading, understanding and hopefully accepting.
Well, this was nicely written. Interesting from that perspective, of a man who is a pro. :)
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