¿WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU'RE BOTH TOPS?

You’ve done it. You’ve found him. The man of your dreams. He’s charming, he’s romantic and he won’t tell your mother you met on Grindr. For once, you’ve found Mr Right instead of Mr Right Now. But as always, there’s just one small catch, you’re a top, and so is he.

You spot Mr. Right across the dancefloor, while out for casual drinks with friends. You both gave each other the usual shy smile, the lingering gaze. Fast forward an hour and four vodka shots later you decided to invite him back to your place. Then comes the awkward moment we all hope will never arise in these encounters. You look at him, he looks @ you and it’s clear that we’re both saying the same thing…"I’m not bottoming".

Now don’t get me wrong, I know we all want sex because frankly we enjoy it. But if you think past that, and let’s be honest gay men don’t often acknowledge it, sex is about much more than a quick pump and dump, especially with a partner. Sex secures a relationship; it brings you together intimately as well as physically.

Would you be willing to walk away from a man that captures you due to you both being tops?

Would/could you settle for everything else that comes with being intimate with another man i.e. chatting, spooning and all the other things that lead up to sex?