😩 HOPELESSLY DISTRACT DURING SEX 🤔

You’ve probably been here before: You’re in the middle of getting hot and heavy with your partner and — ding! — up pops a thought about tomorrow’s big work deadline.

Your mind journeys to that dull but persistent land of worries it loves to visit, and then you realize it’s doing that, and you spiral into: WTF, brain, there’s something much better going on right now, please pay attention!

Luckily, because this isn’t a rare phenomenon, do you have any tips or pointers on how to help others cope when this inevitably happens to them? 

😱 HAVE YOU EVEN BEEN CAUGHT MASTURBATING 🍆

Caught With Your Hand in Your Pants? 

There are a few firsts that every gay man remembers: His first erection, his first time seeing a naked man, his first time “doing the deed” – and then there’s the one that no gay man forgets, even though he wishes he could: his first time caught masturbating.

Has this happen to you?

If it did, was your thought ‘doesn’t anyone knock anymore?’

Did you finish up when they left?

🥱 BORING SEX BE GONE: HOW TO ADD SOME SPARK BETWEEN THE SHEETS 🛌

Hot sex isn’t always a surefire thing, even with an amazing partner. Sometimes your mind gets in the way. Sometimes physical issues interfere. Sometimes you might have boring sex.

What is boring sex?

“Different strokes for different folks” has never been a more appropriate saying. What makes sex “boring” is subjective. People have different tastes, needs, fetishes, and skill sets.

But if what was once a spontaneous, thrilling, robust sex life with your partner feels like it’s been replaced by obligatory intimacy, there are things you can do to get back in sync with each other.

First of all, don’t freak out. There are bright, throbbing lights at the end of this tunnel of boring sex. Whether you or your partner is dealing with physical or mental health issues, you’re having relationship woes, or you simply need to bring the sexy back, there are plenty of ways to return your sex life to its former glory.

Emotional causes of boring sex

Boring sex may not be related to the sex itself at all. Your mental health and happiness can have a big impact on your sexual satisfaction.

We need to talk: Relationship tensions

If your once-steamy romps have turned into snoozefests (or disappeared altogether), it may have to do with your emotional connection. One study suggested that greater emotional intimacy with a partner is linked to greater sexual desire.

You can start the conversation or talk to a couples’ counselor together to identify and work through any issues that may be holding you back from the sex of your dreams.

Libido vultures: Depression, anxiety, and ADHD

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or distressed in the streets, you’re probably not going to feel relaxed and playful in the sheets.

Depression and anxiety

Depression is linked to decreases in libido and in relationship satisfaction. According to a 2017 research review, depression is associated with a 50 to 70 percent increase in the risk of sexual dysfunction.

And even treatments for depression can have sexual side effects. Research suggests that selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) medications, which are used to treat depression and anxiety, can make it difficult to get turned on, stay turned on, and reach orgasm.

What’s more, depression and anxiety can cause insomnia, which has been associated with sexual dysfunction in men and postmenopausal women.

ADHD

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a condition that causes symptoms like hyperactivity, and lack of focus.

ADHD has been associated with an unusually high sex drive (aka hypersexuality) — research suggests this often shows up as a constant need for sex and a voracious appetite for porn. ADHD is also associated with hyposexuality, a loss of desire for sex.

Physical causes of boring sex

A lack of variety in your sex life could be bringing boredom into your bedroom — or there could be something up with your bod.

Pain

Love hurts, and sex can too, especially for women. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists reports that almost 3 in 4 women experience pain during intercourse at some point.

This pain can put a damper on doing the deed or keep you from seeking out sexy time at all. But just because it’s common doesn’t mean it needs to be your new norm. Be open with your doctor about what you’re experiencing to get their advice on treatment methods.

Erectile dysfunction

Research suggests that erectile dysfunction is another common issue that can contribute to sexual frustration.

Stamina

Exercising has lots of benefits for your health and well-being, and one of them is extra stamina in bed. Working on your fitness level, whatever that looks like for you, is a goal we can all get behind. And if it comes with the bonus of better sex, that’s all the more reason to break a sweat.

GREATIST

👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨 IS INTIMATE SEX BETTER THAN ANONYMOUS SEX 🥷

Think back to all the best orgasms in your life. You know, the ones that caused full body fevers. Euphoria so intense that it's almost too much to handle. Your whole body quivers and tingles in ecstasy. In that moment of blasting thick ropes of cum, presumably inside some guy's mouth or ass, the world just seems to makes sense. And now think about the circumstances of that orgasm. Why exactly was it good? Was he just that hot? Or he knew exactly how to use his tongue? Or was it something else... Was it... intimacy?!

For some guys, there's nothing hotter than secretive, anonymous midnight trysts. Sex with a perfect stranger to never been seen again is definitely kinky in its own way. And again, this should be interpreted not necessarily as a knock on hookup culture, but my contention is that the best orgasms happen sometime after the third date.

There's something about that feeling of being deeply intertwined with someone, both in flesh and in mind, that elevates the sex to a higher level. Penis length is finite, but when you engage the heart and mind, you can go infinitely deep with your partner. You can totally join together as one in that moment, and there's nothing hotter than that.

Intimacy requires letting down barriers. It requires getting to know each other for who you really are. When you're having sex with a total stranger, you're only showing each other parts of your selves. Sure, being naked and aroused next to someone makes it hard to keep secrets. But revealing your dreams, your fears, and your kinks--that's an entirely different level of being vulnerable.

Of course, some guys are able to achieve these high levels of intimacy during brief random hookups. And for them, that's great! But for most people, it takes time to get there. But the sex is ultimately worth it. Anonymous or not, everyone agrees that a lay with gusto is better than a disinterested handjob...

6️⃣ SIGNS THAT YOU'RE A LEGIT SEX ADDICT 🤔

There are hundreds of articles about how to tell whether the guy you are seeing is a sex addict. But what if you think that your own sexual behavior is getting out of control? Is your insatiable appetite for sex a normal thing, or it’s more of a clinical condition? Here are some questions that can help you test your libido.

DO YOU BECOME EXTREMELY IRRITABLE IF YOUR PARTNER WITHHOLDS YOU FROM SEX WHEN YOU DEMAND IT?

Feeling uptight because you are not getting any is OK but anger is definitely not a normal response to a “No”. You can’t expect to get laid on the second the thought about sex invades your mind and your groins. After all, sex cannot be assumed just because you bought someone a drink or somebody told you that the guy you have asked out is “always up to it.” Agitation and anger are a clear sign that something is wrong.

DO YOU MASTURBATE A LOT?

And by "a lot" we mean insanely a lot. The main thing about sex addiction is that sex or thinking about it occupies a major part of one’s awake time. And the fact the there is no person available for sex at a given moment won’t stop the addict from having it! If you masturbate every time you happen to be alone, whether at home, in the copy room, or at your grandparents', that’s a sign that you have the opposite of a healthy sex drive.

DO YOU ENGAGE IN RISKY OR INAPPROPRIATE SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

A lot of us fantasize about having naughty sex in a dark movie theatre or on a car’s back seat with a Uber driver. For sex addicts, however, this urge is much stronger and can manifest itself in high-risk behavior. Public sex, sex without protection with random call boys, exhibitionism, voyeurism, sex under the influence of opioids are just a few of the dangerous activities that may send a person obsessed with sex to the hospital or the police station.

DO YOU KEEP LYING TO YOUR PARTNER AND EVERYBODY ELSE?

Just like Kevin Costner’s character in Mr. Brooks (2007) who is a respected businessman by day and a vicious serial killer by night, sex addicts, too, tend to live double lives. Especially if they are in a stable relationship! As they have little or no control over their sexual urge, cheating becomes their second nature. Because they can’t get enough sex from their partner, they are constantly seeking it in other places. Simply put, they have to keep up with the lies if they want to keep both their partner and the option for extramarital sexual activities.

ARE YOU OVERWHELMED BY FEELINGS OF SHAME AND REGRET?

At some point, the sex addict finds oneself being stuck in the vicious circle of hypersexuality followed by an intense feeling of self-loathing and repentance. Although you are aware of this repetitive pattern, you are unable to break it no matter how much you want it.

DO YOU HAVE THE FEELING THAT YOUR LIFE IS PUT ON HOLD?

You are not in a relationship, because you find it difficult to stay in one for more than a couple of weeks. The problem is that by your standards, no-one is sexually-charged enough to keep up with you. Thinking constantly about sex and how to get it can result in serious consequences not only for your mental health but also for your social and personal life. Productivity at work can also be at risk, which is logical, given that you concentrate more on touching yourself and eyeing the good-looking colleagues and less on your work assignments.

We are not the voice that has to substitute the advice of a healthcare professional, but if you are exhibiting most of the above symptoms, you’d better consult one. A psychologist or a specially trained social worker can help you address the underlying factors that cause your sex addiction, and teach you how to cope with the persisting thoughts and feelings.

SOURCE: ANDREW CHRISTIAN

🤔 WHY WE'RE OBSESSED WITH ROUGH FUCKING 😅

What is it about a rough fuck that is so fascinating?

Some call it kinky, but “rough” is the word that best describes the sex between consenting adults that involves some form of aggressive behavior causing a certain amount of pleasurable pain. The definition can be further expanded to include anything from lip-biting to bondage and sadism-masochism. The desire for doing it the rough way is not abnormal, as the puritans may think. It is actually a very common practice and that means that even your 63-year-old cleaning lady may have a thing for it - something you would have never guessed judging by her sweet Grandma's appearance and humble conduct. But what is it about rough sex that makes it so fascinating and desirable?

🧐 HAVE YOU EVER HAD STEAMY SEX IN A CAR 🚘

Have you ever had car sex before, guys? If your answer is yes, then my next question is: how was it for you? 

Perhaps it remains a fantasy for you, at least for now, and you are contemplating to try it in the near future.? 

5️⃣ BEST RESOLUTIONS FOR BETTER SEX IN THE NEW YEAR 🆕

There have been at least three decades within 2020, I’d say. This has been a long, arduous and confusing year. So boy do we all really need to make some good resolutions. Let’s make the 20s swingin’ again, fellas! Designed specifically to better your life AND your sex life, here are our top five best resolutions for 2023.

1. REFINE YOUR GYM ROUTINE FOR AESTHETIC

Okay, the hardest part of going to the gym is actually getting out of the house and going there. But, you do that already. So now it’s time to start taking the gym more seriously. Do the research and refine your gym routine so that your optimizing your muscles for aesthetic. Add muscle strategically and you’ll be looking twice as handsome by next year.

2. MAKE EXTRA TIME FOR YOUR LOVER

Can 2020 be the year we make ghosting illegal? Or at the very least, make a resolution to dedicate more time to your man. Life is short, people, spend time together. Reply to that text. Go out on dates as often as you can.

3. GIVE HIM RANDOM COMPLIMENTS

Part of being a better lover in the new year means upping your flattery game. Compliments feel good to give and great to receive. So spread some love in the new year by letting him know just how delicious you think that ass is.

4. SHOW HIM YOUR MASC / FEM SIDE

In the new year, get in touch with your other side. No, not the dark side. If you're a total masc, check in on your inner fem and see how she’s doing. Try it out in bed too and you’re partner won’t know what hit him. ;)

5. GO THE EXTRA MILE FOR HIS FANTASY

Finally, part of being a better lover in 2020 is going the extra mile to fulfill his wildest dreams. I’m not telling anyone to do anything dangerous, but consider compromising in bed so that he can live out his fantasies. And if you don’t know what his fantasies are, then just ask.

With these resolutions as a compass to guide you through 2021, you’ll be sure to have a great year filled with amazing sex. Or, you’ll give up on your resolutions by February and go back to eating ice cream every night. I know that’s what I usually do!

SOURCE: ANDREW CHRISTIAN

🍆🍑WOULD YOU ATTEND A GAY ORGY? 👬🏽🧐

Have you ever attended a sex party or orgy, guys? If so, how did it go for you? Did you like it? More importantly, is it something that you would like to try again?

🍆 💦 A GUIDE TO THE P-SPOT (THE MALE G-SPOT) 🍑 👅

In popular culture, there appears to be an increasing acceptance of and curiosity toward butt play. Whether you call it bottoming, pegging, or simply butt stuff, it’s worth exploring for those who have a prostate gland, otherwise known as the “P-spot” or male G-spot. If you already have—you know exactly why. Butt for the butt-curious, read on to find out more about the P-spot.

What is the P-Spot?

The P-spot, also known as the prostate, is a small muscular gland that produces the seminal fluid in ejaculate and also helps propel semen when you climax. It’s present in people assigned male at birth and is surrounded by nerve endings. Thankfully, most anal toys, strap-ons, (and Ds) are already angled for direct access, so it shouldn’t be hard to find.

Where is the P-Spot?

If you’re interested in exploring your p-spot – either on your own or with a partner – it’s important to know where exactly to find this highly sensitive portal to orgasmic bliss. If it’s your first time, I recommend practicing on your own, which reduces the pressure to perform and allows you to go at your own pace to explore what feels good (and what doesn’t). 

The p-spot is a smooth walnut-shaped gland, located just below the bladder, and about 6-8 cm inside your rectum, towards the penis (away from your tailbone). Compared to the surrounding tissue, it’s quite firm, which makes it easier to determine if you’ve found the right spot or not.

Before you start, here are some handy tips to help set the stage:

·         Make sure you have plenty of anal-safe lube on hand–literally. Silicone-based lube is the best because of its unmatched slickness. Learn more about how to use lube for your bottom before you jump in.

·         Trim and clean your fingernails or find toys specifically designed for prostate stimulation that expertly take the guesswork out of locating your prostate

·         Cleanse with an isotonic douche if you want the added confidence that your booty is prepped–inside and out. If you’re new to this, read our guide on how to douche for anal sex. 

·         Find a patient and experienced partner who will help explore your body at a pace that you’re comfortable with. Maintain open and honest communication with each other, so that everyone knows what feels good and what doesn’t. Rimming, fingering, and toy-play also make for great foreplay if bottoming is on the agenda. It also helps pre-dilate and pre-lubricate the anal canal, which ensures a smooth and safe ride from start to finish

When you’re ready to dive in, you can locate the prostate and enjoy the experience to the fullest:

How to Find The P-Spot:

1.      Apply copious amounts of lube on your or your partner’s finger and very slowly insert until you hit resistance. 

2.      Leave your finger there for a few seconds before removing it and applying more lube. Do this again, each time reaching a little further inside. 

3.      Once you feel comfortable with the entire finger, feel around until you find the prostate. It’ll be firm, flat, smooth, and about the size of a walnut.

4.      Most people recommend the “come here” or “come hither” stroking or plucking motion, but I find that this can easily irritate the prostate and even cause prostatitis. Instead, I recommend massaging the prostate by starting at the outer edges and then inward on each lobe (left and right). This is not only more gentle for the prostate, but it actually can help milk the prostate, by appropriately moving the prostatic juices into the center of the prostate, which helps release it once it’s ready. 

5.      Because most people intend to ejaculate / orgasm during prostate stimulation, it’s important to pay attention to other erogenous zones of the body. Feel free to stimulate the penis, testicles, and even the perineum (the small external space between the testicles and the anus). You can even perform oral sex to help bring your partner to orgasm while stimulating their prostate.

How to Stimulate the Male G-Spot

The prostate is a highly sought-after area of pleasure because it is surrounded by nerve endings. When you climax while stimulating your P-spot (known as a prostate orgasm), it will feel relatively similar to having an orgasm just from touching yourself, except that it is way more intense and can be felt throughout the entire body.

It’s important to experiment with different angles, heights, and positions of both you and your partner (or toy) to see how best to stimulate your P-spot. For beginners who don't want to jump straight to penetration, simply stimulating your perineum (the area between your anus and scrotum) via rubbing or stroking is a great introduction to your p-spot. Experiencing pleasure, pain, or unprecedented ecstasy all comes down to your pelvic floor angulation, the angle of insertion, what size toy or penis you're inserting, etc, so you need to pay close attention to the curvature of your partner or your toy. However, there are prostate-specific toys that are great for beginners since they were designed to take the guesswork out of this type of stimulation. 

What Are the Best Positions for Hitting the Male P-Spot?

If either your anal toy or partner curves upward, then the best way to hit your P-spot and reach a p-spot orgasm is by facing each other. This means missionary and cowboy (and any variations of these) will be best. On the other hand, if your partner or toy curves downward, you’ll want to try positions where you aren’t facing each other, like reverse cowboy, doggy, and spooning. Of course, any position can feel great, but if you truly want to experience a P-spot climax, finding the right position will help maximize your pleasure.

Is P-Spot Stimulation Painful? 

For some people, the sensations at first may feel like you have to use the bathroom (don’t worry—if you’ve prepared with the Future Method Intimate Wash and Butt & Gut Pre + Probiotic, you won’t actually go). With time and experience, you’ll get used to this.

If done properly, meaning with ample dilation, copious amounts of lube, and a patient partner, you shouldn’t experience any pain. However, most people are not aware that the P-spot is very sensitive—in a good way and a bad way. If you pound it too hard or too repetitively, it can get irritated and cause prostatitis. If this happens, you may need a helping hand—literally. Use one or two well-manicured fingers (long nails are a no-no) to massage your prostate from the outside, in, on one side (and the same on the other side). This moves the fluid into the correct place (some call it ‘milking the prostate’), helping release it (and the pressure) when you come. Not only will this hopefully relieve your prostatitis, but it’ll also give you a mind-blowing climax.

The Difference Between Penile and P-Spot Orgasm

A p-spot orgasm can result in sensations that are felt throughout the entire body -- from head to toe -- rather than just focused on the genital area or penis. It's almost like a whole body “high".

Bottoms up: The P-Spot in Conclusion

If you’ve never felt a P-spot climax before, I think it’s time for you to try. The sensation is beyond anything you’ve ever felt before. Before you dive in with a partner, set aside some time for self-experimentation and exploration. There’s less pressure to perform when you’re alone and you’ll be able to find out what feels good (and what doesn’t). Why do you think so many bottoms crave the big D? It’s not only for the act of full penetration, but also P-spot stimulation.

SOURCE: FUTURE METHOD

🙅🏽‍♂️ NOPE 🍑 YOU DON’T NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR NOT SENDING NUDES 🍆

Swapping nudes can be an everyday practice for some in the Grindr set, but others aren’t comfortable sharing their NSFW pics with any old online connection.

When a guy asks for your [dick pic] or nudes, but you don’t want to send those pics, do you apologize to him?

Do you feel guilty for not wanting to share such important part of yourself?

I don’t think you should feel bad about not wanting to share nudes and you should STOP apologizing for not wanting to send nudes to a stranger. And if it pisses a guy off that’s a GOOD thing because those people show you all of their red flags immediately, which makes it clear for you that you need to move on.

People grow up with a lot of different beliefs about what they owe to others, and many people learn that saying no is something to apologize for—regardless of whether you owed them something or not.

😑 SEX, ALL TALK & NO FOLLOW THROUGH 😒

Ever chat with a guy and he’s going on about how good his ass is or how he has the big tools to lay it down like a pro, then you guys meet up and he nuts in 2/3 minutes, gets dress and leave? 

😓 IS YOUR JOB THE REASON YOU AREN’T FUCKING MORE 🤔

There is a reason there have not been a lot of shows about sexy accountants fucking their way through Manhattan. Crunching numbers all day sounds as boring, horrible, and painful as a big-screen version of the Broadway musical ‘Cats.’ Accountants are not the only ones suffering from unsexy careers. There are plenty of jobs out there that, while they may pay well and be great jobs for those who do them, just are not making potential partners line up to fuck. So if you have been having a hard time getting laid, you may want to rethink your career choice because the following are the least sexy jobs out there and could very well be the reason for your dry spell.

ACCOUNTANT

Again, there is nothing sexy about math. Sorry, there just is not. I mean, how many of you have ever seen a hot math teacher? Exactly. Yes, math is an important skill to know - especially when it comes to finances but ugh, the monotony of it all just leaves your dick as limp as a pasta noodle.

SANITATION WORKER

When one thinks of sanitation workers and garbage collectors, they do not think of how much those jobs make. They think of how fucking rotten people smell at the end of their shifts. Only super freaks wanna get down with someone who smells like week-old garbage, lumpy milk, and mountains of diapers.

FISHERMAN

Sanitation workers do not smell like roses, but neither do those whose sole purpose is to pull fish out of the ocean.

TRUCK DRIVER

As glamorous as being on the road all the time seems you have to realize the reality of a truck driver. They are not staying in five-star hotels and eating high-end brunches when they stop along their route. Instead, they are sleeping in an itty-bitty living space in their truck that makes a New York City apartment look like a millionaire’s estate, and eating gas station cuisine. As for showering, have you ever seen a truck stop shower situation? Yeah, not pretty.

POLITICIANS

While Obama is forever one of the hottest people to ever be in politics - that tan suit, FUCK ME - most politicians are gross. Not just because of their physical appearances either. It is hard to not believe people who are in politics are not full of bullshit based on well, 99% of the politicians we have seen thus far. Who wants to fuck someone whose job revolves around stretching the truth all the time?

LAWYER

Which, speaking of...Most politicians have law degrees. This means that lawyers are just as unsexy as them. Even those high-paid attorneys can’t get around the fact that people do not find those who sometimes defend bad people hot. Would you want to fuck a lawyer that made their money by fighting for people who were guilty of insane crimes?

METER MAIDS

Those who live in places where the parking situations are less than ideal know that meter maids and the parking police are their natural-born enemies. That is why no one wants to fuck someone with a job that involves writing expensive ass tickets just for being parked someone parked a centimeter in the red zone.

TAXIDERMIST

Would you want to fuck someone who spends all of their time working with dead animals? Not so much. While it is an interesting profession, the creepy factor plays a role in keeping a taxidermist in the friend zone for life.

FUNERAL DIRECTOR

In keeping with creepy jobs, unless you’re an Elvira type or live like Morticia Addams, you’re probably not gushing over the idea of sleeping with someone who spends more quality time with the dead than the living.

SOURCE: ANDREW CHRISTIAN

🔟 WAYS TO EXPLORE SEXUAL PLEASURE WITHOUT A PATNER 🤤

Exploring your sexual self doesn’t always have to be with a partner. In fact, we think the best time to learn about your sexuality is when you are by yourself. When you’re flying solo, there’s no pressure to rush or to perform. You can spend this time feeling your own vibes, learning what gets you off (and what doesn’t), what hurts or feels uncomfortable (and what feels oh-so-good), and what new tricks you can bring into partner play.

To help guide you, we put together a short list of ideas on how to explore your sexuality independently. So sit back, take off your pants, and relax.

1) Jerk off

We want you to play with your dick. You’re probably thinking — how groundbreaking! But there are more benefits to having sex by yourself than you think. Masturbation has been proven to increase serotonin levels, therefore, making you feel happier. There are also physical benefits, like keeping your prostate clear and healthy. Prostate backup is a real thing and, if left untreated, it can potentially lead to an enlarged prostate that can be quite uncomfortable. There’s also been research to suggest that men who ejaculate more often have lower incidences of prostate cancer. Why is this? It’s thought to be mainly linked to the fact that you’re constantly working the gland and therefore keeping it in shape. Your body functions best when it’s being used (hence why exercise is so important) and when you’re promoting blood flow that carries oxygen and micronutrients to all your bits and pieces. You’d be surprised — some guys just don’t make time for masturbation. However, if you jerk off regularly, then try taking this time to find different benefits of getting off at certain points in the day. Many guys report a quick session in the morning helps reduce brain fog and fatigue, while others report that night time sessions help them fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. Whatever your reason is, just get off.

2) Look at your hole

At my practice, we are all about the ass. While we look at them all day long, there are plenty of people who have never seen their own hole. Give us the hole truth — how long has it been since you really took a good look? From a sexual standpoint, men feel more confident during sex knowing that their hole looks good. And looking good can mean different things to different people. Some guys love a hairy hole, while other guys want it smooth. And there are plenty of guys who are equal opportunists. Whatever your preferences are, we encourage you to get acquainted with your hole, both for sexual and health purposes. As with any part of your body, knowing what your hole looks and feels like normally can help you detect any abnormal changes, at which point you should see a medical professional.

3) Play with your hole

Now that you know what it looks like, why not find out what it feels like? One of our goals is to educate everyone on maximizing pleasure, while minimizing injury. This starts with familiarizing yourself with the ins and outs of your hole (no pun intended). Whether you’re a pro bottom or a total top, listen up: a prostate orgasm is typically the strongest orgasm a guy can have. There are plenty of amazing prostate toys that hit you in the right spot, so now might be a good time to invest in one. For general play, try dilating with toys that were made for anal (this means they have a base to prevent slipping entirely inside) and lots of toy-safe lube (stay away from silicone lube unless you’re using glass toys). This helps keep your sphincter and the skin trained to withstand the friction and force your ass is put through during play. Not only are you making yourself less prone to injury during future sexual encounters, but also you’re pleasuring yourself at the same time. Talk about a win, win!

4) Erotic stories

Most of us by now have watched porn; however, a lot of people haven’t explored the excitement that lies within erotic stories, both in text or audio. With so many porn videos at our fingertips, why pick up a book or plug in your headphones and have to use your own imagination? Before visual porn (videos and images), people read erotic fiction and non-fiction. You can find these stories online at sites such as Nifty, Reddit, and Literotica, or audio stories on sites like Dipsea. From kinks and fantasies, half-fiction, to sci-fi (we’re not kidding), just like Pornhub, the categories run the gamut. So whatever you’re feeling that day, you can likely find it. Erotic stories are a great way to learn more about yourself and what gets to you off. Since these are usually longer and more intimate, guys really feel like they can connect with their psyche. Erotic stories can bring out new fantasies to try out in the bedroom with a partner or they can just be something private for you to enjoy on your own. Either way, they make great edging material, which we will discuss more about later.

5) Sexting

Ever have an ongoing conversation with a certain someone that leads to bedroom talk? Did you start to tell them all the things you’d like to do to them? Well, we love it as much as you do. Sexting, much like erotic stories, can be a fun way to explore your sexuality. You may find yourself typing scenarios you never thought of doing before. Maybe some of it is just talk (and that’s okay — some things are better left undone), but maybe other things are fantasies you want to one day try out in the flesh (pun intended). Sexting is great for long distance couples, a fun way to spice up an open relationship, or simply a great way to test out the waters to see if you’re sexually compatible with a new special someone.

6) Sex toy play

If you follow us regularly, you’ve read plenty about why we think sex toy play is so important. By training your hole to dilate on command, you’re helping reduce potential injuries that can take place during the real act. It’s not just about stretching the muscles, but also the skin, and by doing so, sex can feel even better. In this section, however, we’re going beyond the ass. Fleshlights and masturbation sleeves (like Tenga eggs) can be a fun alternative to jerking off with your hand. Fleshlights can be a great way to build stamina to last longer in the bedroom, as well as finding your rhythm for your own pleasure. Another option is a vibrating dildo or butt plug, either one that you control yourself or one that someone can control from elsewhere via Bluetooth. All these types of toys provide different sensations that simply cannot be replicated, so why not explore?

7) Watch softcore porn

Similar to the idea of erotic stories, softcore porn can be a great way to explore your sexuality in a more intimate manner. Experiment with fine touches and passionate thoughts and see where it takes you. We’re often overstimulated with the intense energy around us that we feel like we need to always match it, thus the increasing interest in watching hardcore porn. While this can be a great outlet to channel some of that built up energy, sometimes it’s best to approach sex in a more meditative manner. By breathing in slowly and letting your imagination wander with fewer external stimuli, this might be all you need to explore your passionate side.

8) Edge

Edging is the perfect way to spend half a day getting your rocks off. For those unfamiliar with edging, it’s the act of taking yourself to climax, but stopping right before you come. This sort of teasing is done repeatedly over a period of time. For some guys, it can be just a few minutes, while for others it can be for hours. The goal is usually a massive orgasm that is often felt through your whole body. Everyone edges differently — for some, it’s just about jerking off, while others may incorporate several toys. If you haven’t tried it, it might be fair to say you’re missing out on the biggest orgasm of your life. Just be careful not to make a huge mess…!

9) Try new positions

We’re not talking about for sex… we’re referring to new positions by yourself. Do you always find yourself in the same routine? Jerking off on your bed or couch, or in a chair facing your laptop? Why not switch things up?! Getting off can take place in all different forms. Try jerking off standing up, using your imagination, or maybe incorporating toys. Or maybe upside down on your bed so you can give yourself a complimentary facial (our kind of self care). Some guys even prefer jerking off as if they’re getting fucked in missionary or doggy. Sounds pretty hot, right? Just because you’re by yourself doesn’t mean masturbation has to be vanilla. Look forward to masturbating just like you do sex and it’ll elevate the experience.

10) Take nudes

Some guys love being recorded during sex or being watched (with consent, of course). The same thrill can be experienced by yourself. I’m sure most of us have taken a nude selfie at some point, whether it was to send on Grindr, to slide into someone’s DMs, or even to share with a significant other. But have you ever experimented with taking nudes just for the sake of taking nudes? It may sound strange to some, but you may find that it brings out the voyeur in you more than you thought. Taking nude pictures and videos is a form of self expression. Getting in touch with your intimate side and feeling sexy can also be liberating. The best part about it is you don’t even need to send them to anyone. They can be just for you. Pro tip: download an app to hide your intimate pictures on your phone — you’ll thank us later.

How you approach this is completely up to you — there’s no right or wrong way to explore your every nook, cranny, or hole(s). It’s just important that you find the time to do it. The more in tune you are with your own body, the better you can guide yourself — or someone else — to hit all of the right buttons. You never know what you’ll uncover.

SOURCE: FUTURE METHOD

🤔 CUCKHOLDING 🤤 ARE INTO IT 🤨

Have you ever fantasized about watching your boyfriend or partner or husband have sex with another man? If so, have you and your partner ever explored this fantasy of yours?

If you get turned on by the idea of your partner having sex with another, maybe you even want to watch them, then you may be into cuckolding. 

This fetish, according to Healthline, is “closely tied to BDSM with overlaps like domination, submission and humiliation — minus the gear and spanking à la Fifty Shades.” In addition, they explained that cuckolding historically “refers to a man who was unknowingly cheated on by his wife.”

Today, though, the desire to be cucked on is popular among couples of any sexual orientation and gender. Cuckolding is also on the rise, if the increase on Google searches for the phrase “gay cuck Twitter” is anything to go by.  Further, cuckolding is also increasingly becoming popular in porn, as “gay searches for ‘cuckold’ average around 200,000 per month” on a porn site, a research finds.   

How true is this study for you, guys? Are you one of those who love watching cuckold gay porn videos? Have any of you ever had sex with someone else watching? What was the experience like?

All that being said, have you ever engaged in cuckolding? If not yet, would you ever try it?

🤔 WHAT ARE YOUR BONDAGE SEX STORIES 🤤

Have you ever fantasized about bondage or being restrained during sex, guys? If your answer is yes, you are not actually alone in this regard. In fact, many people are into it. 

What advice do you have to those beginners when it comes to bondage?

🤨 SAY, WHAT 🤬

Say, what?! Men share the worst and weirdest things they’ve been called in bed

Sex. It can be a lot of fun. It can also be suuuuper awkward. Especially when things get verbal.

What are the worst/weirdest/funniest things you’ve been called during sex?

5️⃣ REASONS TO REDISCOVER EROTIC LITERATURE 📚

The internet is full of photos and videos of jacked, hunky men sucking and fucking each other. This is, as we call it in the industry, porn. But long before the Lumière brothers shocked the world with their exploitation of the persistence of vision, folks had to get their kicks from an entirely different medium of pornography. That's right, believe it or not, people long ago actually MASTURBATED to BOOKS! From Petronius to Chaucer to Marqiuis de Sade, the libraries of antiquity of full of absolute smut. Of course, what with today's cock-sucking holograms and 10K ULTRA-HD cumshots, erotic literature has fallen out of fashion... but not here! Perhaps you too are among the anachronistic literati that still jerks it to ink and paper. If not, here's six reasons why you should rediscover erotic literature!

1. PORN, BUT ALSO ART

Erotic literature is essentially porn, but it's also art! Oftentimes, the creators behind the things we jerk off to put very little effort into the product beyond just making sure the guys are hot and hard. Writers of erotic literature are only limited by their imagination, which means their works can be just as sexy but also artistically stimulating!

2. IT'S ABOUT THE JOURNEY, NOT THE DESTINATION

With video porn, the focus tends to all be on the cumshot. You watch the video until you cum, the guys on screen cum, or ideally both cum at the same time. But with erotic literature, it's more about basking in the ambient levels of eroticism that are omnipresent even in the passages that aren't just stark depictions of sex. Of course, books can be just as a graphic and explicit as videos too! And with e-readers these days, you really only need one hand to turn a page! ;)

3. DO AWAY WITH UNREALISTIC BEAUTY STANDARDS

Porn tends to give us unrealistic beauty standards. The guys always look perfectly toned and unobtainable beautiful. In books however, the language, though still vividly descriptive, relies on your own brain to conjure up images yourself. So if you're tired of everyone looking photoshopped, read a book and picture the men as you please!

4. PORTRAYALS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Video pornography is often lacking in plot and character development. Usually it's not much deeper than a couple archetypical hunks fucking after sharing an extremely terse conversation about sausage pizza or locker room esoterica. When you read a book, you really get to know the characters in a way that (albeit still fictitious) is much closer to a model of genuine human romance, thus arguably healthier for our overly stimulated, porn-addled brains!

5. READ A MOTHERFUCKING BOOK!

Even if every third word is "cock" or "cum", ultimately you're still reading a book, which not a lot of people do these days! Start with a book about gay sex, and who knows, next you might move on to Moby Dick! Porn is sexy, but being literate is even sexier!

SOURCE: ANDREW CHRISTIAN BLOG

DO YOU ENJOY THE TASTE OF CUM?

Do you love giving blow jobs, guys? And if so, do you swallow? Why or why not? In addition, what does cum taste like? Do you enjoy its taste?

Do you enjoy swallowing your boyfriend or partner’s cum, guys? Do you like its taste? Why or why not?

🥵 LASTING ALL NIGHT LONG 🤔

Porn isn’t the only medium giving people unrealistic ideas about sex.

Innumerable pop songs, movies and stand-up acts lead us to believe that people are having non-stop penetration all night long. What is the number of minutes people typically spend fucking? While we may have a misconception that we’re supposed to last forever, science (and biology) says otherwise. Penetration isn’t the pinnacle of sex. It’s one tool of many.

Sure, no one wants to orgasm prematurely, but the length of time it takes you to go from the start of penetration to an orgasm is only a problem in certain contexts. If the whole experience from start to finish lasts under five minutes and ends with your own orgasm, that might be a letdown experience, no matter who your partner is. 

Of course, there are ways to increase how long you last, but the unrealistic expectation of lasting on and on and on — combined with the mentality that sex is over once you ejaculate — can lead lots of guys to simply feel ashamed or embarrassed when it comes to sex. Which, as you can guess, is hardly a recipe for a mind-blowingly hot experience.