📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🃏DUPED BY BOYFRIEND'S FANTASIES INVOLVING WOMEN 😩

So my boyfriend and I met @ a party and immediately hit it off.

He was very into me during the few months of dating and we made it official.

Things were great… for a while. Then last Christmas, he dropped a bomb.

He admitted to me that, based on his ‘behavior with his straight friends at a bachelor party that he might be bisexual.

Although he says he has never been in a relationship with a woman, or (apparently) had sex with a woman, he claims that his feelings toward women have been increasing and leaving him feeling overwhelmed with erotic fantasies.

He now has been yo-yo-ing between wanting to be in a relationship with me and breaking up, because he says he doesn’t know whether he could pursue a long-term relationship with anyone until he knew more about his sexuality.

It’s especially hurtful because we’ve talked about moving into together and getting married one day.

Am I selfish for wanting him to stay with me and not wanting him to explore these feelings he has? I am lost, hurt, confused, and I don’t know what to do. What’s your take? Am I being too close-minded?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 😼 STRAIGHT-FOR-PAY 💰

Hello I am gay and I want your opinion, see my boyfriend does “straight” porn and my friends and family thinks it’s weird. He makes makes $1000 for only “a few hours work.”

He’s VERY much gay, because the only times he penetrates anyone is on a porn set.  

He did look into doing gay porn but didn’t like the amount of negative things that came with that option. And I’ve been on his sets and see how mechanical it and fake it is that it doesn’t matter to me one bit.

Do you think we are weird for being a gay couple with one of us doing straight porn?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

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What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🤤 SIDE PICKLE PROBLEMS 🍆

 

So I’m “in a pickle” I’ve been hooking up with his best friend for more than 10 years. It all started when my best friend complained that his wife wouldn’t entertain the idea of performing oral sex on him and as any good, gay friend would do, I offered to step in. it was a joke but selfishly, when he said yes I didn’t refuse. He’s attractive, fit and we’re workout buddies so both have the endurance. Our bodies were not mysteries to one another, but we’ve never connected sexually…until I made him a proposition.

We would meet about three/four times a week and he insisted that he’s “very discreet” and his wife would never find out. So much for being discreet as his wife texted me a week ago demanding that I STOP having sex with her husband. She says she’s suspected for years but had convinced herself her husband is totally straight...Apparently, she got into his phone and found some sexually oriented text messages we exchanged with each other. She says she won’t confront her husband and doesn’t want a divorce, she just wants the sex to stop.

Now that I know that she knows it makes our hookups MORE exciting.

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🤔 FOUND MY STRAIGHT BEST FRIEND ON GRINDR 💭

I have a very strong attraction to my roommate & best friends. We hang out for days, playing video games and watching tv. Unfortunately, my friend has an off-and-on girlfriend. Aside from that, I am friends with his GF and would not think to interfere in their relationship, even it being as confusing as it is. “But I never really even got to the point of thinking about that since he is straight. I never let my feelings for him develop. This isn’t my first rodeo with straight/curious guys and know to protect myself and keep it platonic. There’s no point in pining after someone who will never like you back.”

But now that this friend is on a break with his girlfriend, he appears to be looking for Grindr matches.

Is appropriate for me to try and talk to him about his sexual preferences based on what I’ve seen? If so, is there a particularly good way to go about it, especially for someone who is potentially closeted? Is it wrong for me to want something to happen between us? Is this something I should let go?”

Have you ever had to deal with this?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL 8️⃣ YEARS A LOVE SLAVE 💔

I’m still in love with my ex-husband. It’s been eight years since I ended things when it became clear he didn’t love me. He didn’t disagree. He met someone new shortly thereafter and remarried a year later. Still, I think of him daily. I wish he still loved me. On my bad days, I regret ending our 12-year relationship and think I lost the love of my life. But he was a liar and a cheater. I know he was wrong for me. How do I let this go?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🤔 OPEN RELATIONSHIP BUT I HAVE SEXUAL LIMITATIONS 💭

So I am gay and my boyfriend is who is bisexual and I’ve always been cool with him playing with other women and sometimes other guys as we have an open relationship.

Recently we had a couple over socially and things got a little heated. My boyfriend and guy fooled around before, but never with his wife. I sort of figured we’d just watch, my boyfriend and the guy go at it, but then his wife placed her hands on my thigh.

Unsure how to respond, I left the room. I’ve never been with a female and I am not interested. My boyfriend was very upset as he feels that I am too closed off to experimentation. But shouldn’t this kind of thing happen with lots of communication first?

I suspected that my boyfriend and the couple knew this was the plan and I was the odd man out. Now I am wondering if I should end this relationship.

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 💪🏽 THE MASC BOTTOM DILEMMA 😞

I’m the big black muscle guy that looks like a top, I am in my early 20s and I’m beefy as hell, so most men think I’m in my early 30s. I’m also a complete submissive bitch, but most guys don’t expect that out of me. I’m not opposed to topping, but I only like to top guys that I know will be around for a while (like a FWB or a romantic interest). I’ve been told I’m handsome and all of that, but all guys want is the lightweight twink they can throw around. All of my hookups have called me a big dude in a good way, but it seems like it isn’t the dream. Plus I’m black so everybody thinks I’m a top as well.

I want you to know that when you approach me at the bar or online and you assume I’m a top, or that I’m hung, or that I’m hung and a top, I feel dehumanized. “It feels like you’re reducing me to a thing that can perform a service for you, not like a mutual bond, the way sex should be.

“When you’re a black gay guy, bottoming is a political stance. It’s a small way of saying, I don’t want to play the game of upholding dehumanizing stereotypes and images. I don’t want to confirm media and cultural stereotypes about black ‘virile’ masculinity.”

Have you ever been in this situation?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME 🔝 I AM A TOP BUT WANT TO BOTTOM FOR PRIDE 🏳️‍🌈

I am undoubtedly a top and my boyfriend is a bottom. I suppose I am more dominant and he's a bit more submissive. But recently I've been going through some stuff... and at the moment I am not feeling like I want to be topped and Pride Month has me all excited to get plowed. Last week after we fucked, I felt the desire to get dicked down and well--it didn't go well. He immediately seemed off-put by that and reminded me that he doesn’t want to be with a man that wants the same thing he wants. Must I always be the one tops?

Have you ever been in this situation?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME 1️⃣3️⃣ GUYS GOING IN 2️⃣1️⃣

I am monogamous now, but in the past relationships I have messed around with other men. I have my 21^st birthday coming up and I have this weird birthday fantasy: I want to get gang banged by multiple guys at once. I really feel like it’s something I need to do and this milestone birthday feels like a good time. The only problem is I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. He knows about my BDE and can satisfy me like no other, but I don’t know how he would handle it if I asked about doing this thing. I want his permission, but part of me thinks maybe it’s better to keep it to myself. He probably wouldn’t ever find out or care and I would obviously use protection. What should I do?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME 🤨 ¿DOES MY WANTING AN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS MEANS I WANT TO CHEAT? ⚠️

There's a small predicament in my relationship. Hubby and I have both--let's say--been around the block sexually speaking. We're both extremely open-minded when it comes to exploring different sides of our fetishes. But recently we've hit a snag: introducing other people. And no, not just group sex. When he can keep on eye on me, it's fine if I suck another cock here and there. But recently I've have a craving to open up our relationship a bit. In other words, I want to try having dating and fucking other guys here and there, with the understanding that he and I are still bonded. Hubby has responded well to this proposition. I guess the question, is this just another kink, or am I actually cheating on him?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME 🧖🏽‍♂️ RUBBED BUT NOT…TUGGED 🤨

I’ve been a relationship with my partner for 11 years. Recently, I happened to look at the messaging on his iPad and found that he was frequenting the massage services of a man that provides the service nude. From the messages I saw, it seems that they REALLY enjoy each other’s company and though he tells me that it was strictly business and nothing happened I am not sure. I say this because the messages were in fact pretty descriptive with photos of the masseur nude and included photos of my partner. He actually booked 2-3 different massages. When I found these, I was devastated. What bothered me most was I could determine based on the dates that these occurred a few days after our anniversary, or after weekends that we had been together and enjoyed our time together. When I confronted him on the situation, he initially denied it, but as I showed him the screenshots I had taken, he had to admit that he had in fact had a massage on a couple of occasions and said he was offered ‘a happy ending’ but said no. So my question is—am I being crazy for having my doubts?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME 😬 FROM GRINDR HOOKUP(S) TO MONOGAMY 🤞🏽

I met a great guy on Grindr. It was supposed to be just a hook-up but we ended up getting to know each other and now it’s been a few months. It feels like a relationship. We hold hands, we cook dinner together, spending a lot of time with each other, but he still goes on Grindr a lot. He says he’s just going on to chat, but most guys aren’t on there just to “chat.”

A few weeks ago, he showed me a guy who wanted to have a three-way. I really wasn’t into it. An hour later, I noticed he was still on Grindr after he left my house, but his location wasn’t very far away and his profile picture was next to the guy he was talking about earlier. The next day he admitted that he hooked up with him. I was extremely upset and we came to an understanding that we would only play with others together.

Like I said, we’re not in a real relationship, even though we act like a couple. He doesn’t refer me as his boyfriend, but does say we are dating and when I asked him if he was hooking up with anybody else, he said no. Yet he’s always on Grindr!

Fast forward again. He wanted to have another three-way and showed me some guy. After he left my house, I saw he was next to the guy on Grindr. I texted him immediately and asked what he was doing. He said it was just a coincidence and that nobody was next to him.

Am I wrong? How do I move past this? Or do I accept that we’re not in a relationship and I’m wanting too much when he’s clearly not looking for commitment? My heart and brain don’t see the match.

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🍆 BROMANSTURBATION 💦

My wife found out that a buddy of mine have been regularly masturbating with each other since childhood.

We’ve been together for about six years and married for two. She found out about our activities with each other last year, when we met up with childhood friend and his fiancée for drinks.

At some point during the evening, the topic of sex came up and being comfortable with my sexuality I owned up what I’ve been doing with my friend, suffice to say she was NOT happy at all.

She feels that it says something about my sexuality and that it’s cheating. I love my wife but I also LOVE what I feel when my buddy and I touch each other.

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

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📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 🩲 AN UNDERWEAR SNIFFER 👃🏽

I’m feeling like a sexual deviant and I think I they may just need to lock me up. I have this twisted fetish and I can’t seem to stop from myself indulging. Anytime the opportunity arises, I will impulsively take a deep, long inhalation of other guy’s used underwear. Dirty laundry is a bane to my existence. Something about the aromas just take me to heaven. Whether I’m at a guy's house and spot a soiled pair of briefs or in a public locker room I notice a discarded, used jockstrap, my nose takes the reigns and I watch helplessly as my body brings the used underwear up to my nose to sniff. Is this immoral? Is this wrong? Am I a bad person? Should they lock me up forever and throw away the key?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

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📧 JUS' E-MAIL ME 😬ACCIDENTALLY WENT ON A STRAIGHT DATE 👎🏽

 

I am absolutely mortified. Here's the situation: During the heavy days of quarantine last year, I started a job. Naturally, we did everything fully remotely and I never met any of my coworkers in person... until recently. 

Well, for months there was this one woman who sorta became my defacto Slack chat buddy. We're seemed to get along great during Zoom meetings and shared a mutual ironic detachment toward the nature of the work itself. Well, fast forward to last weekend. Our entire small team has been fully vaccinated and our manager threw a little work better at a local bar. Perhaps it was just because I've been so socially deprived for the last year, but the get-together became abnormally lively for something office-related. She and left early to get drinks elsewhere, and well... long story short, I guess I flirted with Suzy because now she's spamming my phone with heart emojis and wants to plan our next date. Needless to say I am about as gay as they come and have zero sexual attraction to this woman. How can I let her down tactfully, knowing that I'll probably continue having daily Zoom calls with her. Or maybe it's just time to find a new job?

 Have you ever had to deal with this?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME: 🍆 STAY OUT OF MY BEDROOM 🍑

Every single gay male has heard the following naive question: which one of you is “the woman” and which is “the man”?

This is a question only posed to me by my family who seemed absolutely flummoxed about the nature of gay sex. Flummoxed! Of course the proper retort is, “We’re both men!” That’s the whole point of gay boning, all. But the thirst to understand which boy is putting his P in an A and which boy has opened his A for P is really about making gay sex legible, and legible in a heterosexual context and I am tired of this.

I just wish people would leave things alone keep their noses out of my bedroom business.

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME: FALLEN IN LOVE WITH FRIEND’S BF… 😒

I know  that one of the unwritten rules of the gay gentlemen code of conduct is: Never do to a fellow brother what you don’t want to be done to you. In other words, don’t be the guy who’d steal friend’s boyfriend. And yet, love knows no rules, and when you happen to fall in love with a guy who’s already taken, you feel like a kid standing outside the window of a candy store. The big question is: How do I deal with the feelings toward someone who is off-limits? Should I go the safe road and let him be, or invade his world, mercilessly try to them break up and lose my friend?

Have you ever been in this situation?

What are your thoughts?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME: THE INCEST REQUEST... 😒

The world we live in truly is among the most the strangest possible timelines. My partner of 3 years came to me with something alarming, he wants me to have sex with my step brother while he watches! I know that’s a porn fantasy and it’s everywhere, but that’s one thing I am not into.

This made me wonder if this is a reflection of our society? How did incest porn become such a fantasy? How do I tell my partner HELL NO I am not going there?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME: THE RYTHMN METHOD... 🍆

I'm not a happy bottom. I'm thicc in all the right ways, and men tell me that my ass is more addictive than most narcotics. However, the man whom I currently allow to top me has one little gripe that may soon ruin or relationship. And let's just say, I'm not ready to say goodbye to this cock. So here's the issue, when I'm getting fucked in the ass, I generally am NOT hard, and if I am, it doesn't last for long. I don't know why, but this has always been the case. Obviously, I'm still enjoying it, but my partner wants to me to cum at the same time as him, and I, as a rule, cum afterwards. Is this a case of an unstoppable force meeting an immovable object?

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📧 JUS’ E-MAIL ME: MY BOYFRIEND IS CONSTANTLY TOUCHING MY D!@K 🍆

My BF won't stop touching my dick. What began as a charming quirk has become a neurotic fixation and a living nightmare for me. My sweet-as-cherry-pie boyfriend of several years has a bit of an anxiety problem, and it brings him comfort to just hold my flaccid penis in his hand. He's always done this, with my enthusiastic permission, every now and then after sex and in other intimate situations. But now that we're both in quarantine and working from home, he literally never wants to stop holding my penis. It's become a near constant element in my life. I never get to wear clothes any more. My cock must be exposed at all times. I get that this is a tough time mental-health-wise, but his hand has become like flesh chastity belt. Please advise.

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