With sorry being thrown around all over the place, how do you distinguish
the genuine ones from the half-hearted statements. What happened to the good
ole times when apologies could build bridges and mend relationships?
Even when an
apology comes from a good place, sometimes anger is still there. Want to figure
out why? From, getting over *that* kind of apology to exploring where your
anger comes from, here’s everything you need to know.
If there’s
ever a time to use the cliché “Actions speak louder than words,” it’s with
apologies. Someone can apologize until they’re blue in the face but if you’re
noticing it’s not backed up by their actions moving forward,
it’s meaningless.
Sometimes,
apologies aren’t legit and if you’re
still reeling after a sorry, ask yourself: Does this person use sorry as an
escape? Have they said sorry before, only to not change a thing?
Maybe they did
apologize properly and changed their actions, yet you still feel angry.
In that case, maybe what’s bothering you isn’t the issue apologized for. It
could be a much bigger, pent-up problem.
In fact, your
frustration might come from a deeply ingrained issue that requires time to deal
with and process.
I know that sorry isn’t a magic word — you still need to
process it,
so seek clarity before you break off ties unless it’s
a very cut and dry situation.
Always remember
that if f you
still feel angry, it’s completely okay and valid to be even after someone says sorry.
Don’t let anyone guilt you into thinking anger isn’t acceptable.
You don’t have
to get over it for anyone else except yourself. Feel how you feel and then,
when you’re ready, move on for you.
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