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Wednesday, March 10, 2021


What, for you, are the things that a person or a guy has or does that make them look attractive in your eyes, guys? 

Is it their smile? Maybe it is the way they laugh? Perhaps it’s the way their eyes sparkle when they tease you or when they are happy about something? When you see them reading a book, that’s quite a huge turn on or at least these are the non-sexual things a guy does that make them more attractive in my eyes.

Which of these are a turn on for  you:

·    When a guy says their name/call them by their name when they didn’t have to. 

·         When a guy calls you “my man”

·         A guy’s voice

·         When a guy wears “regular shorts” not “booty shorts”

·         Shared interests – like when the guy likes the same movies or music or shows as them

·         Hands

·         Prominent veins on a guy’s arms

·         Hairy forearms

·         When a guy is intelligent and speaks other languages, i.e. Spanish or when they talk nerdy

·         Stable guys who have “real jobs that have consistent schedules, where they have a significant degree of responsibility over others.”

·         “When someone is original and doesn’t speak in memes or movie quotes or very new slang. When they can speak respectfully.”

·         When a guy has self-awareness; someone who’s not afraid to admit: “Yeah, I realized I have this problem, but I’ve been reading about it/going to therapy and I’m trying to get better.”

What about you, guys? 

What are the non-sexual things that turn you on to a guy or a person? 


  1. Hands. Kindness. Lips. A slyness. Posture. A healthy smile. Intellect. The ability to constructively critique. Demonstrating multiple dimensions.

  2. From that list only... A guy's voice, probably 🎡 Music to my ears, lol! 😜

    From "my own list"... Clothes can be a turn-on, too! πŸ˜‰

  3. sorry, but why Hands, Prominent veins on a guy’s arms & Hairy forearms wouldn't be a sexual things?