You go on a
date last Friday night.
You thought
everything went well.
You had a
nice conversation - laughed at all the seemingly right moments.
Dinner was
excellent, and he expressed love for the food and ambiance just as you did.
The walk
after dinner through town, where you both shared something embarrassing about
yourselves, seemed to create a bit of an initial bond...
The goodbye
was poignant and sweet. Your date asked when they may be able to see you again.
You said you were interested in getting together again and were flexible.
"I'll
reach out to schedule another date together," your date says coyly while
smiling.
You felt you
were a shoo-in for a next date...
So excited!
Saturday
came... Sunday passed...
As you head
to work on Monday, with no contact from the full-of-next-date-promise date from
Friday night, you are perplexed and start reliving the night in your head...
"Did I
say the wrong answer when I was asked about my high school prom?"
"Ugh...I
know I shouldn't have mentioned the college party I hooped it up in junior year
- I just thought we were bonding!!"
"Now I
wonder am I being judged that I hadn't heard of that band he mentioned?"
The second
guessing of decisions made, regret of statements said and replaying of events
in your head is painful.
It's now
Wednesday - no call or text or Instagram message or courier pigeon note asking
for a second date...
The
frustration and disappointment is mounting...
And in
desperate curiosity and defiance, when they don't call or text back in a couple of
days, I can hear you thinking,
the
nerve of him....
Rejection,
especially when you don't see it coming, is rough...
Is this you?
Come on now,
this is a safe space - you can admit it...
Have you ever
been frustrated by a date that led you to think all
was great and a next step was coming, only not to call?
However the guy got hit by a truck on hos way back home, or he s Santa and busy at this time of the year or... a jerk who wanted to get laid or usual to the ecercise of dating men but never gets satisfied. Unless, hefound love just b4 calling you right back. No worries, something good is there for you. Just hold on to it when you see it.
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