If I can turn back time…
If I could turn
back time, I’d tell my younger self to chill out for a few years. I was so
anxious about throwing myself out there in the world of love and sex that I
often neglected well needed to time to discover who I was and what mattered
most to me. But just because we haven’t found a way to travel through time
doesn’t mean I can’t learn from the past. There are loads of advice I’d give my
younger self. Here are just a few:
#1) Never do
anything drunk you wouldn’t do sober (and if you’re not sure about that, wait
till you’re sober).
#2) If they
talk trash about all the guys they’ve slept with, walk away. They’re going to
talk about you the same way to someone else.
#3) Always aim
to GIVE more than you receive. It will inspire him to meet you there.
#4) Kissing is
NEVER permission to do everything. Never let a man think he can go all the way
just because you start making out. It’s your decision.
#5) Never have
“pity sex” with someone you feel obligated to. Have respect for your body, and
also have a bit of dignity for Christ’s sake.
#6) Not every
position is going to be 100% comfortable. We’re all shaped differently, so
speak up if you know that crazy position he found online does notcompliment
your body.
#7) Don’t be
insecure about your body during sex. He knows what you look like. Clearly he
doesn’t care because he chose to have sex with you, so let loose and focus on
the experience.
#8) Never shame
another gay man because he has wider limits and boundaries than you. Just
because he’s comfortable with one-night stands doesn’t give you permission to
judge him.
#9) Enjoying
anal pleasure doesn’t mean you’re “feminine” or less of a man. It means you’re
open and eager to explore other forms of pleasure. Don’t be scared.
#10) Just
because a guy is the DJ of some hot club, or drives a fancy car, or has lots of
connections at your favorite spots does not mean he’s a catch.
It especially doesn’t mean he’ll be good at sex.
#11) If you
have sex with a celebrity, the only person you should tell is your best friend.
No one else will believe you.
#12) When a guy
pressures you, you’re always going to feel worse if you cave in.
#13) Know how
to Kiss & Tell properly. Leave out major details (no one really wants to
hear). Don’t reveal his darkest secrets to your best friends. That’s not nice.
#14) If a boy
wants to keep your encounters discrete, you should respect his wishes for as
long as your heart can hold. You never know what his situation is.
#15) Never put
up with selfish lovers. If he is all about himself, it’s a total reflection on
his character. Say bye-bye!
#16) When a man
is playing “hard to get” by giving you the cold shoulder, he’s not worth it.
#17) Don’t
knock anything till you try it at least three times. Only then are you able to
truly make up your mind.
#18) Not every
man is going to know how to pleasure you right. Most of the time you’re going
to have to play teacher.
#19) Never be
afraid to tell a man what he’s doing wrong.
#20) Anal sex
isn’t supposed to hurt. If it does, you’re doing it wrong. Get out of your head
and learn to loosen up, and also read these stories to freshen up: 10 Secrets to Having Pain Free Anal Sex & 9 Tips to Becoming a Better Bottom.
#21) Lust at
first sight is often confused for love at first sight. That latter only exists
if the relationship works out. The truth of the matter is it’s always, always,
LUST. And that’s okay so long as you know the difference.
#22) There is
such a thing as Male on Male rape. You always have a say in the matter. Just
because you’re a man doesn’t mean you can’t be a victim.
#23) Real sex isn’t
like what you see in gay porn. It’s not going to be beautiful or pretty, so
don’t ever feel a need to “perform” or “act” like your favorite porn star.
#24) Really
great sex is quite funny. Don’t be ashamed to laugh out loud at certain
moments. It’s actually hysterical.
#25) When a man
doesn’t ejaculate, it probably doesn’t have anything to do with you.
Nervousness is a huge factor.
#26) A BIG
penis isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
#27) Don’t have
casual sex with strangers until you’re mature enough not to become attached.
#28) Grindr can
overtake your life if you let it. DON’T.
#29) Knowing a
man’s soul is more important than knowing how big his penis is. Once you know
about his penis, there’s nothing left to discover. But you’ll always find knew
things about a man’s soul – the discoveries never end.
#30) If you
think having sex without a condom is okay, look in the mirror and slap
yourself.
Wow great list!
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