You have been in couple for a while, things aren't as exciting as
they once were, and you "find yourself" being pulled by someone other
than your partner...what do you do?
Do you walk
away from your new found attraction? Stop every form of communication. Not a
phone call, not a lunch, not an email? Not so much as a fantasy?
Do you share
your concerns with your partner and together decide to do whatever you can to
improve the relationship? Do you go to counseling, recommit, dedicate your
time, energy, and love to your relationship?
Do you say I am
a man with needs and this other person sparks something in me and go for it? Do
you date him and end things with your partner or do you see him on the side?
Very vital questions for so many people. I know a couple who have been together and really love each other for about 35 years, but for the last 30 they have each done their own thing sexually!
ReplyDeletewell my relationship is just going on 6 years and we haven't gotten to that place yet
DeleteIt all depends on the couple. You know I really do not believe in monogamy. But if you have made a verbal commitment to your partner to only have sex with him..you should abide bu it...or get out.
ReplyDeleteThe most long term same sex couples I know all have one thing in common... the have sex with others outside their relationship.
I like that you don't believe in monogamy but you feel there should be honor in it if it is agreed upon in a relationship
DeleteSorry, I can't help here. My relationship was an "open" relationship. My partner knew that I had sex with other men, but never objected. Our relationship lasted 23 years! It only ended when he died, six years ago. I loved him as I have never loved another person.
ReplyDeletewell that worked for you guys and I am glad you got love and be loved :)
DeleteNot an option for me in any way since it would completely destroy my partner. When things get rocky, and they have, I tough it out.
ReplyDeleteI tough it out myself :)
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