I SPY: ¿DO YOU SNOOP ON YOUR PARTNER?

Do you know anyone that
is constantly on the hunt for evidence that their partner is cheating on them? You know the ones that hack Facebook
and Twitter accounts, check cell phones, break into voicemails, check receipts
and piece together intricate timelines based on answers received from the
lengthy questioning of their partner. If you ask any of these people why they
do it they’ll tell you it’s because “men
cheat” or because they want to make sure they aren’t getting “played.” They’ll tell you they’re
justified in their actions and that they wouldn’t mind if their partner checked
their phone, etc because they have nothing to hide.

Personally….I
think they’re all nuts. I come from the train of thought that says what’s done
in the dark always comes to light. I don’t have to snoop or look for evidence
because your foolishness will catch up with you sooner or later. I just live my
life and keep my eyes and ears open, but snoop, never, and just like I thought,
everything came to life. Besides, if you feel so strongly in your gut that
something is going on then something usually is. Your instincts are usually all
the evidence you need that something might not be right. The problem is most of
us ignore our guts in favor of finding physical proof to substantiate what
we’ve known all along.

I think most
people snoop because of insecurity. They have been hurt before, lied to and
cheated on so their trust has been damaged, maybe not by the present person,
but you know what they say, the son will pay for the sins of the father…the
same goes for new partners paying for the sins of the ex. Most of us never
start a new relationship with a truly clean slate, we carry residual baggage
from the previous relationships with us, often whether we realize it or not and
that causes us to look for trouble where there might not be any. I don’t think
it’s ever a good idea to snoop on your partner. The mature thing to do would be
to have a discussion with them about how you’re feeling (notice I said discuss, not confront. People naturally get defensive
when confronted which only raises more suspicion) and if you still feel
like something is going on, then take a step back and reevaluate the situation.
You don’t want to go around snooping only to find nothing in the end. The
snooping will only cause the lack of trust between you two to deepen and
without trust any relationship will be destined to fail.

¿Have you ever snooped? 


¿Is it ever okay to snoop on your partner?