COMING OUT...

¿WHAT DOES IT MEAN 2 COME OUT?

Coming out is the process of personally accepting your homosexuality and disclosing it to family, co-workers and friends. Coming out is different for every gay or bisexual man. Some experience a lot of pain and anguish while for others acceptance is simple. You may experience fear, doubt, loneliness, anger and even depression. That's why it is good to surround yourself with others that may be going through the same transition or who have already come out. They can be a great support network. If you don't have any gay friends or don't know anyone else coming out, there are discussion forums and chat rooms that have plenty of positive influences. Be careful though, some may only be interested in sex or may seek to take advantage of you.

¿WHEN SHOULD YOU COME OUT?

You should come out when you are absolutely ready! Remember, even though this may be a confusing time, you are in complete control. You can disclose your sexuality at your own pace. Some choose to come out slowly. They reveal their sexuality to a few people that are close to them, then move on to other family and friends. Often, because of many work environments, the workplace may be the last step. Just make sure you are comfortable with yourself. Once that happens, it is a lot easier to tell others.

¿WHAT ABOUT REJECTION?

Some family and friends do have a hard time accepting that someone they love is gay or bisexual. However, there are many times where they are extremely supportive. Each person's situation and surroundings are different and there is no definite way to tell how well your family will accept your sexuality. Just be strong and remember to come out to family and friends at your own pace. You can't choose your family, but if your friends do not accept you for who you are, then they don't need to be in your live anyway. You are in complete control, don't let fear hold you back. Your Gay Life Guide as well as support groups are available if you need to talk.