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Wednesday, July 24, 2013
¿WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE WORDS WE/THEY USE TO DESCRIBE US?
Are the words "queer", "sissy", "homo" and all the other words WE/THEY use to describe someone that is SGL offensive?
As you might guess I relish the term Queer. That is what I am! Having originally come from a place where calling you names was the norm, I just took back that name as if to say "yeah I am Queer..so what the fuck?
"Words, names and labels are invented for the sole purpose of reducing the core of our spirits. In the end, when we’re all dead and gone, will it really matter anymore what people said or thought, or what the hell they called us?"
For me, it comes down to ownership. Did the term come into being to deride or celebrate? I am torn. Queer makes me queasy. Faggot? Hateful. Homo? Hurled too often. Gay is really the only one I am comfortable with... and the hip hop culture continues to associate with the lesser (thank you Macklemore!) So... I am just a dude. Who likes to get naked with other dudes. So just call me... a penis aficionado! - Uptonking from Wonderland Burlesque
You mean it's a bad thing when he says "Get down on your knees and suck, bitch!" ?
Damn.....I thought it was his way of telling me how much he likes my technique and how attractive I am when I'm kneeling in front of him looking up lovingly into his eyes !
Truthfully, it depends on the tone and intent with which the term is used. The right person can call me a "silly faggot" jokingly, but if someone else says it, I'm going OFF on them.
I blend in pretty well in a group of men, but I'm not afraid to tell people I'm gay and married. It's who I am. If you're okay with that, great. If not, it's no skin off my nose. I don't need your damn permission to live my life.
When I was younger, whenever someone called me a faggot, sissy, or attacked my feminine ways, it would KILL my self-esteem. It took a long time for me to accept my sexuality; now that I finally have, it doesn't get to me (as much) when derogatory words come my way.
Have to confess that I was until now, unfamiliar with the term 'SGL' (thanks Wikipedia), which I now interpret as having an exclusive rather than inclusive connotation within OUR own community. Yeah, well, we're all different but in the final analysis, aren't we ALL SGL and as such, may I have permission to use the term to describe myself?
As you might guess I relish the term Queer. That is what I am! Having originally come from a place where calling you names was the norm, I just took back that name as if to say "yeah I am Queer..so what the fuck?
ReplyDeleteI agree taking the power/meaning away from certain words can be a positive thing on an individual level.
Delete"Words, names and labels are invented for the sole purpose of reducing the core of our spirits. In the end, when we’re all dead and gone, will it really matter anymore what people said or thought, or what the hell they called us?"
ReplyDelete~ From Like Litter in the Wind by L.M. Ross
One.
I MUST purchase this book @ month's end
DeleteFor me, it comes down to ownership. Did the term come into being to deride or celebrate? I am torn. Queer makes me queasy. Faggot? Hateful. Homo? Hurled too often. Gay is really the only one I am comfortable with... and the hip hop culture continues to associate with the lesser (thank you Macklemore!) So... I am just a dude. Who likes to get naked with other dudes. So just call me... a penis aficionado! - Uptonking from Wonderland Burlesque
ReplyDeleteYeah Macklemore is a gem when it comes to subject. I have taken the approach that opposite of what I say is true. Crazy huh?
DeleteYou mean it's a bad thing when he says "Get down on your knees and suck, bitch!" ?
ReplyDeleteDamn.....I thought it was his way of telling me how much he likes my technique and how attractive I am when I'm kneeling in front of him looking up lovingly into his eyes !
Truthfully, it depends on the tone and intent with which the term is used. The right person can call me a "silly faggot" jokingly, but if someone else says it, I'm going OFF on them.
I blend in pretty well in a group of men, but I'm not afraid to tell people I'm gay and married. It's who I am. If you're okay with that, great. If not, it's no skin off my nose. I don't need your damn permission to live my life.
you are right, the messenger & tone makes a difference. CONGRATS on being married sir :-)
DeleteWhen I was younger, whenever someone called me a faggot, sissy, or attacked my feminine ways, it would KILL my self-esteem. It took a long time for me to accept my sexuality; now that I finally have, it doesn't get to me (as much) when derogatory words come my way.
ReplyDelete-_Cogito
amazing how we are our TRUE selves as kids and instead of others accepting us, they try to hurt us SO happy you are okay with yourself.
DeleteHave to confess that I was until now, unfamiliar with the term 'SGL' (thanks Wikipedia), which I now interpret as having an exclusive rather than inclusive connotation within OUR own community. Yeah, well, we're all different but in the final analysis, aren't we ALL SGL and as such, may I have permission to use the term to describe myself?
ReplyDeleteGet it???
TOTALLY get it :-)
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