WHEN A MAN...

This blog entry was INSPIRED by the many men that I’ve chat with that say that there are NO available good men out there. So many of us are so far off course when it comes to knowing what we want AND how to navigate in this world that we MISS the most obvious thing when it comes to a man. So I hope these help us come to a better understanding of who we are as men…

1. When a MAN says 'I LOVE YOU'…he means it.
2. When a MAN operates from his spirit…he is coming into his own.
3. When a MAN says 'I MISS YOU'... no one in this world can miss you more than that.
4. When a MAN looks at you with eyes full of questions...he is wondering how long you will be around.
5. When a MAN is quiet...millions of things are running in his mind.
6. When a MAN is not arguing…he is thinking deeply.
7. When a MAN answers ' I'm fine ' after a few seconds...he is not at all fine.
8. When a MAN stares at you...he is wondering why you are lying.
9. When a MAN lies on your chest...he is wishing for you to be his forever.
10. When a MAN wants to see you everyday...he wants to be pampered.
11. When a MAN wants you… nothing can keep him away.
12. When a MAN doesn't want you…nothing can make him stay.
13. When a MAN settles…he is telling another that he is MORE important.
14. When a MAN changes himself for a relationship…his life will NEVER happy.
15. When a MAN decides that he will NOT live for another…he trying to find out what makes him happy first.
16. When a MAN feels like he is being stringed along…he probably is.
17. When a MAN doesn’t stay because things won’t get better…he is saving himself some heartache.
18. When a MAN is in a mature relationship…he knows that the only person he can control is himself.
19. When a MAN has his own set of friends…he is saying that sometime away from each other brings perspective to a relationship.
20. When a MAN speaks his mind…he is merely maintaining the boundaries in a relationship.
21. When a MAN does make you his quasi-God…he is just saying that you are a man nothing more, nothing less.
22. When a MAN is more educate or has a better job than you…he does NOT feel more important than you.
23. When a MAN is open AND honest…he knows that if his trust is broken it isn’t his lost.
24. When a MAN decides that he wants his own man…he will NEVER borrow someone else’s.
25. When a MAN says that all men are NOT dogs…he knows that it is all about how you let a man treat you.
26. When a MAN refuses to do all the bending…he knows that compromise is a two way street.
27. When a MAN refuses to be defined by who you are… he knows that he should NEVER look for a man to COMPLETE him because a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...NOT supplementary.
28. When a MAN stays to him after a relationship ends…he is saying that he needs time to heal because he knows that there is NOTHING cute about baggage.
29. When a MAN is missed…he knows that you won’t take his time AND energy for granted.
30. When a MAN can’t fully commit to you…he knows that you can’t give him everything that he would need.

Life only comes around once and it is OUR duty to ensure that WE spend it with the right person. So I implore every gay MAN to find a MAN who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep…I say wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are NOT your best…Most of all hold onto the MAN that holds your hand in front of his friends, who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you AND who turns to his friends and says, THAT’S HIM! REMEMBER THAT LOVE N’ LIFE IS ALL ABOUT THE ELEMENTAL & THE RAWNESS…MAKE SURE YOU ARE LIVING & LOVING YOUR BEST POSSIBLE LIFE!