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Let me just put this out there I really enjoy a good jack-off. It’s not compulsive in any way, I just enjoy
a bit of ‘me-time’. I jack off about once a day and I pretty much
always use porn to help me get off. I have sex too in a monogamous relationship
of six years. The sex we have is good, REALLY good, but it’s nothing like the
porn I watch.
In my jack-off sessions I tend to get off watching myvidster videos
of ‘rugged, masculine men, having rough and ready encounters’. Within my
relationship the sex is intimate and I get that physical and emotional
connection. The other day I was talking to a friend about the sex that I have and
during the conversation, my friend told me, ‘it’s
a bit weird that you’re still jacking-off so much even though you have a
healthy relationship’. It’s almost like there’s something missing from your
sex-life.
I beg to differ because from the time I knew myself, I was the only
one giving me pleasure until I got curious about involving another person. So I
put my ‘porn versus real-life’ situation to you, do you think masturbating even though you have a partner is unnecessary?
No! Keep wanking! As you said, sometimes you need that "me time." Nothing wrong with it.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are getting your WE time :-)
DeleteNothing wrong with a lil self expression but be ready to always meet your partners needs
ReplyDeleteALWAYS :-)
DeleteThere's nothing with having some healthy sensual "me-time" in order to stay psychologically connected to who you are as a sexual creature. If you were like many other people who masturbate then chances are, over time you learned to use sexual self-pleasuring to discover some of your erogenous zones, to learn the limits of edging and how to stay in control of the PONR or "point of no return" - that which a man experiences before ejaculation and orgasm. The benefits of masturbation are huge - both for the person masturbating and for his/her sexual partner. As for using pornography, I see nothing wrong with that as a stimulus so long as you understand that porn is porn and is not YOUR reality. I place the use of porn to help one with sexual gratification along the same lines as one who has a mental sexual fantasy. Finally, if your partner is not threaten or made insecure with you jacking off /having some "me-time" or jacking off to porn, and things are still loving and hot between you two, then there's no issue.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE what you said.
DeleteThat is a very interesting question and discussion. Thank you for putting it out there. Personally I think guys should always be free to jack off. I would say that a partner who tries to insist that his other does not jack off is just being unrealistic. Porn also seems to me good as a way of just enlarging one's horizons about sex. I think this topic is likely to be coming up on my blog, because somebody recently consulted me about his fears of being found out by his partner.
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to see what you say about this on your blog
DeleteI love that you put this out there! Being in a relationship and jacking-off are not exclusive, nor should they be. As RobFather-X points out, guys learn a lot from masturbation that helps them in their partnered sexual encounters. My wife has always known that I whack off and she's never had a problem with it. Issues with spouses (or partners) only crop up when they feel threatened by it. There's no reason to feel threatened by a partner spending some 'me time' and not having to concern him/her self with pleasuring or pleasing anyone else.
ReplyDeleteBTW - Thank you for the comments you leave on my blog! They are greatly appreciated!
thanks for stopping by and I LOVE your blog
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