THE ART OF QUIET SEX DURING THE HOLIDAYS

There’s a time and a place for everything. Sometimes sex should be loud and raucous. And sometimes you need to be quiet and discreet. You may be at home with your family for the holidays, in a dorm room, living with roommates or in a place where you are not out to the other people in the home. Because others are around does not mean you have to abstain from sex, but you should show respect to others within earshot by keeping the noise level to a minimum.

How to have quiet sex:

Choose the right time

If you’re staying in a home with relatives and friends, you and your partner might be itching to get your hands on each other. Finding time to have sex amidst the chaos of a family gathering can be difficult. If everyone runs out to the mall or goes to church, take advantage of the empty house and slip off for a quickie.

While everyone is milling around outside your room or in the hallways is not a good time. You can wait until everyone is in bed. Waking up in the middle of the night when everyone else is asleep can be a lot of fun.

Use the tension to your advantage

It might be driving you crazy that you can’t touch your partner. Your family might not appreciate public displays of affection, so you keep your hands to yourself. By the time you get alone in your bedroom, you’re dying to tear each other’s clothes off.

Make it quick

When others are around is not the time to have a marathon gymnastics sex session. It doesn’t mean the sex has to be bad though. Quick and passionate sex can be one of your most memorable sexual experiences.

Dealing with Squeaky Beds

If you’re in a bed that creaks and squeaks, take your love making to the floor, in a chair, or try an activity like oral sex, where you’re not bouncing around too much.

Slip off Someplace

If you’ve got a private bathroom in your room, that can be a great place to have sex. Turn on the water and it will cover up much of the noise. Turn on the fan or even run a hairdryer to mask the sounds of sex. Plus, you can lock the door.

Muffle the Noise

While you may try to keep your voices down and the moaning to a minimum, mask the sounds of your love making by turning on music or the TV. People will hear those noises and not the sounds escaping from your lover’s lips.

Cover your mouth

If you know you’re the loud type, cover your mouth with a pillow, bite the blanket or press your face into your armpit or your lover’s body. It might be hard to keep all the noise from slipping out, but you can do your best to keep the volume to a minimum.

Use Fantasy to your Advantage

When others are around is certainly not the time to act out some elaborate fantasy. But knowing that someone could walk in at any moment can create extra tension and get you going in a hurry.

Release Tension

Having sex is a great way to blow off steam and release tension. Spending time with your family can be stressful. Don’t deny yourself a sexual release, just because you’re in your parent’s home.