THE WASTELAND

Often in life, men fall prey to the idea of a woman’s love rather than actually experiencing the real thing. We see this at play when they are out in public and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The concept, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion-dollar industries in the modern world. However, very little of what is offered actually leads to an authentic experience of love. Moreover, they grasp for what they think they want and fail to find it; and they suffer because of it leaving themselves in the wasteland. When this is the case, they have suffered more than they realized and it is certain that what they have found is not love but something else. I see them all the time out with what they think is a PRIZE on their arms; all smiles and but not happy at all. They are anxious, and nervous; never realizing that they probably did not get beyond the romance stage of the relationship. Romance can be a lot of fun as long as we do not try to make too much of it. If we try to make more of it than it is, the romance then becomes painful. Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation. If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last. Do you think these men realize that REAL LOVE is identifiable by the way it makes us feel? How many of them know that LOVE should feel good? There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. I wish that I could tell them that TRUE LOVE activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy, lacking, or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.