Our capacity to cope successfully with life's challenges far outstrips our
capacity to feel nervousness. Yet in the weeks, days, and hours leading up to
an event that we believe will test our limits, we can become nervous. While we
may have previously regarded ourselves as equal to the trials that lie ahead,
we reach a point at which they near and our anxiety begins to mount. We then
become increasingly worked up, until the moment of truth arrives and we
discover that our worry was all for nothing. We are almost always stronger and
more capable than we believe ourselves to be. But anxiety is not rational in
nature, which means that in most cases we cannot work through it using logic as
our only tool. Reason can help us recognize the relative futility of unwarranted
worry but, more often than not, we will find more comfort in patterns of
thought and activity that redirect our attention
to practical or engaging matters.
Most of us find it remarkably difficult to focus on two distinct thoughts or
emotions at once, and we can use this natural human limitation to our advantage
when trying to stay centered in the period leading up to a potentially tricky
experience. When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry--such as
deep breathing, visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or
exercise--anxiety dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping
mechanism as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment. Our
guides can aid us by providing us with a focal point wholly outside of our own
sphere.
The intense emotional flare-up you experience just before you are set to
challenge yourself is often a mixture of both excitement and fear. When you
take steps to eliminate the fear, you can more fully enjoy the excitement.
Though you may find it difficult to avoid getting worked up, your awareness of
the forces acting on your feelings will help you return to your center and
accept that few hurdles you will face will be as high as they at first appear.
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