One thing no
one tells you about being an adult is how lonely you will be. People tell you
about the responsibilities, the hard work in front of you, hell, they even tell
you all the possible STDs you can get from unprotected sex. But for some
reason, people seem to gloss over the fact that it’s really, really hard to
make friends as an adult. And, as a result, a lot of gay men I know are lonely.
Romantic
relationships are arguably easier to find because there’s a physical attraction
or at least the promise of one. Gay men are motivated to find romantic
relationships, so they’re more open to talking to strangers in restaurants or
at a function with who they find intriguing. But if I’m in a dimly lit bar one
Saturday night, and I see a man my age across the way, and I want to get to
know him (strictly on a platonic basis), what do I do? Buy him a drink?
Compliment his outfit? Try to get his number?
In a world full
of #squadgoals and selfies, it can be hard to admit that it is difficult to
maintain or begin a friendship with other gay men. Do you find it hard to make
friends as adult gay men?
No comments:
Post a Comment