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I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Thursday, November 14, 2013


What can we do about all this? Ultimately, it is the collective fear, secrecy, polarization, and loss of purpose within all of us that has allowed leaders to take power who would subvert democracy, and who would take away our freedoms and liberties. By each one of us making a commitment to work on these issues both inside of ourselves and out in the world – and to inspire others to do the same – we are changing our collective direction and building a solid foundation for a brighter future. Several actions can help us to take firm steps in that direction.

Develop purpose and intentions for your life. To live rich, full lives in today's complex world, it's vitally important to give your life clear direction by exploring what is deepest and most meaningful to you, and by developing a life purpose and life intentions based on this. Then choose to live your intentions and follow your purpose to the best of your ability every day. By choosing to live with clear direction and focus, life becomes deeper and more meaningful. This then weakens the seduction of consumerism and media hype which distract us from our purpose, and allows us to more effectively focus on building a brighter future.

Choose to transform fear into acceptance and love. When we notice ourselves feeling fear, we can trace the roots of that fear, so that we are able to identify our core challenges and deal more consciously with them. We can open to guidance from friends, teachers, and spiritual sources in helping us to move from fear to acceptance and understanding. We can also transform our fears through welcoming the ever-present love of our divine creator, and the love that lies always deep within our own hearts, and in the hearts of those around us. In doing this, we begin to recognize fear as an invitation to growth.

Become aware of when you are playing the role of victim, and choose instead to take personal responsibility for building a brighter future. In blaming others for our problems, we often avoid taking responsibility for how much we are involved in creating these problems through the choices we make. Whenever we catch ourselves playing the role of victim by blaming others (including the power elite) for everything that's wrong in our lives, we can choose to take a look inside ourselves, and to explore and take responsibility for our role in what's happening. By focusing less on blaming others, and more on improving ourselves, every one of us can make a difference both in our lives and in our world.

Avoid secrecy and encourage openness and transparency. An important way we can do this is to work together to inform friends and colleagues about the major cover-ups being hidden from the public. Then in our personal lives, when we notice ourselves keeping information from others, we can examine our motives for this secrecy. Are we withholding information out of our own self-interest, or because this is really what's best for all involved? And on a deeper level, where are we avoiding being honest with ourselves?

Move beyond polarization and the focus on "good vs. evil" and "us vs. them." Every person in the world has a heart. And each of us has a place in our heart that wants only to love and be loved. Consider the possibility that all of us are doing what we believe to be right based upon our beliefs, circumstances, and upbringing. As we focus less on blaming and judging "them" and more on supporting the highest motive in all people – including members of the power elite – we increasingly come to see that we are all one human family, and that we can choose to transform our world by working together for the good of all.

And finally, come together in groups and communities to support each other in making these positive changes. In these groups and communities, we support each other in transforming fear into acceptance and love. We exchange information about all that is being hidden from us and explore ways to move beyond polarization. We also share our life purpose and intentions and encourage each other to live these as fully as we can. And we inspire each other to take responsibility for our lives and to be the best that we can be. When we gather in community to support each other in these intentions, we join in building a growing network of inspiration and empowerment around the planet.

These suggestions emphasize changing the collective consciousness of the world by transforming both our own personal lives and the world around us. Let us do all that we can to stop destructive behaviors of the global power elite. Yet let us not overly focus on changing the outside world without first having a solid internal foundation, lest we fall into blaming others, and into the polarizing "us vs. them" ways which only further divide us. By reminding ourselves that the most powerful change starts inside each one of us, we can develop more balance and strength to then work towards positive change out in the world.


This is the first fall in more than a decade that Jason C0llins has not been on the roster of an NBA team.

But no need to feel sorry for him.

'Whatever your situation you try to have a positive outlook on so everything is a blessing. I couldn't be happier and more content with being able to live an authentic and genuine life,' Collins told Gay Star News over the weekend.

'Life is good.'

Collins made headlines last spring when after finishing the season with the Washington Wizards, Collins came out publicly as a gay man in a Sports Illustrated cover story. He soon got a call from President Obama and appeared on TV with Oprah Winfrey.

But no NBA team called with an offer to play.

Collins is keeping in shape in the hopes a team will still need a back-up center. He's also become involved in the LGBTI community and on Saturday (9 November) he was honored with the LA Gay & Lesbian Center's National Vanguard Award.

He described himself as ‘extremely humbled’ by the award and ‘amazed and awed’ by the services The Center provides – especially its services for homeless LGBT youth.

‘The Center is here to support and care about the entire community – anyone with a heartbeat and a need,' he said in a brief but emotional speech.

'There’s nothing more powerful than when someone is seen, heard and accepted for being who they truly are. I lived for 33 years not having shown my true self with anyone – I thought I’d have to go to the grave with it. Not in my wildest dreams did I think my life would transform.’

Before taking the stage, Collins told GSN it was exciting to be getting his award on the same week that Illinois and Hawaii approved gay marriage and the US Senate passed the Employment Non-Discrimination Act.

'Progress is being made and it's encouraging more and more people to live their true and authentic life and know they will be supported by the entire country,' he said. 'When you do come forward not only will you have the support of your community but also your government.'

At Saturday's Gay & Lesbian Center gala in downtown Los Angeles, Collins was the center of attention and surrounded by such celebrities as Lance Bass and the cast of the Netflix hit show Orange is the New Black.

While support from other gays and from well-known straight allies is not surprise, Collins said when he first went public about being gay, one of the people he got support from was retired NBA player Tim Hardaway.

In 2007, Hardaway said 'I hate gay people' when discussing the coming out of former NBA pro John Amaechi.

'He called me early on and was extremely supportive and happy for me.,' Collins said. 'I have to admit I wasn't expecting that but it shows that people's perceptions can change over time. He was in a different place. It's really cool to see that progress is being made on an individual level, social level, government level.'

And yet the homophobia in pro sports persists with just last month former NFL pro Dexter Manley using an anti-gay slur to describe retired Dallas Cowboys quarterback Troy Aikman.

'There are still people in this country who will say things about skin color so it will never truly go away,' Collins said of bigotry. 'But overall, progress if being made.'

'There are still people in this country who will say things about skin color so it will never truly go away but overall, progress if being made.'



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