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Tuesday, June 26, 2012


How do you
know when you are crossing the line of catering to your man to spoiling him?
 It can be a difficult line to see at times, but
once it is crossed we wish we could go back to the other side.

Catering to your man is something
that should be done on occasion or just when you feel like doing something
special for him. Spoiling is when he receives that
 “king” treatment every day to the point that he waits for you to
put out his meals for him because he has never had to do that himself. The sad
thing is that a man that is spoiled doesn’t necessarily mean that he is lazy,
but rather this is the lifestyle that
 YOU have
gotten him used to. You know what I mean, making sure there is always cooked
food waiting on the stove, preparing his plate, bringing it to him along with
anything else he needs to enjoy his food, making sure the place is spic and
span, giving him a massage as you ask him about his day, always doing the dishes
and taking up his plate after he is done and still walk around looking sexy.
SMH and the one time you don’t do these things he looks at you like you lost
your mind or, better yet, he will just sit there and wait for you to do all the
things he is accustomed to.

When our men are spoiled it is no
one’s fault but our own. I do believe in treating my man as a king as long as
he treats me like a king in return. The catering treatment has to go both ways
and when it doesn’t it should be addressed.

There is a reason some men have to
hold back from putting everything on display when in a relationship. You start
off slow with a meal here and there, a massage sometimes, walking around in
something sexy at other times so that he recognizes this as a
 “treat” rather than
something you are required to do. You have to make sure he understands that he
still has to pull his weight.

Don’t get me wrong, I love catering
to my man, but the absolute best is when he returns the gesture. There is
nothing like coming home to a clean house, food cooked and your man rubbing or
kissing your feet just to show how much he appreciates you and all that you do.

Let your man know that you do what
you do out of your love for him and that is it NOT an obligation. I notice that with some couples there is a
complaint that treating the other like a
 “king” has become a chore and something he doesn't enjoy anymore
because it is

Basically, always make sure to draw
that line between catering and spoiling whether you are in a fresh relationship
or in something more serious. Treat him like a king as long as he treats you
like a king.


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