¿30 = TOP?

A common phenomenon in the gay culture, what I’d like to call
part of the ‘gay evolution’ is
the change for men when they reach the ripe age of 30 or thereabouts. This
change manifests in what they do in the bedroom…rather what role they play or
even with closer investigation what they profess happens. These men do away
with the sexual role they performed (bottoms/versatile) and
suddenly they manifest themselves into ‘total
tops’. Leaving me and I am sure a few others to ask, what happened?

Now I know that there are persons out there who are tops (total TOPS), who never bottomed
except for that one or two times and claim they didn’t like it and never will.
I say ‘GOD BLESS EM, BLESS EVEN MORE THE
MEN WHO WILL BOTTOM FOR THEM!’ Bless that BIG cock loving, good fuck taking guy who goes crazy for any
man that knows how to work them. I’ve met a few of these men, hell I even F&CKED a few of them…I can see him
now taking it from the back while calling out my name. WHEN DID HE BECOME A TOP? Are we a culture that feels that to be a
bottom or taking dick up the ass means that you are less than a man? (Aren’t
we already less than men because we love other men?) Do we somehow become
conscious of this at the age of maturity? Is thirty the age of maturity for
gays?

This could be true since at forty most gay men are considered
geriatric, which by definition means: being old and outmoded – unfashionable or
obsolete; that sounds about right. So the thirty’s are the middle age – this is
the time where we reflect on our lives consider our future and make steps
toward achieving those goals that we have. Somehow those goals involve no
longer taking dick up the ass. @ the heart of this I think is a psychological
reasoning that age determines status and status determines dominance and we
equate being dominance with being a top.

So in the sociology of gay males we have this different type
machismo that parallels that of the straight world. And we know how that goes
overtly masculine equals powerful which is a problematic deduction for me. For
the gay community, the most powerful victory we have is being our TRUE selves, so then why are we fighting to be the manly man who
is an extreme exaggeration of what really lies within our hearts? Think
of it like this…if we like ice cream
before do we suddenly not like ice cream anymore? And truth be told
most of these men who profess to be tops, well…with the right person @ the
right time in the right place 9 times out of 10 tend to be THE biggest bottoms! So in reality nothing’s changed it just the
comfort level in admitting what they actually feel or want as opposed to what
they are expected or told to feel or want.