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Wednesday, June 15, 2022


You know what’s the best part about pride month? FREEDOM!

And what’s one of the ways you know you’re really free? You’re having hot sex during pride month.

It’s not the same as at-home sex, no, no, no! This sex is that toe-curling, leisurely kind of sex, where you don’t have to worry about alarms or deadlines and can just relax and let yourself go.

I’ve been thinking about this more now as we’re half way through the celebrations and I’ve come to the conclusion that we’ve been really overthinking this whole thing. It’s way easier to achieve than we think.

It’s not about going to pride celebrations all year long. It’s about the mindset that gets you in the mood. Which means… you can make some easy (free) tweaks to your home sex routine.

It’s a misconception that the sex appeal of sex comes from being in a particular locale. In my opinion, the same energy can be achieved if we rethink sex as a state of mind, rather than location-dependent.

And what’s the biggest mindset? Relaxing. Think about it: when you’re out celebrating, you naturally feel less inclined to focus on daily stressors.

So, if you want to incorporate those sex vibes in your bed, the first step is to relax into the moment. Mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing are great for this.

One of my favorite ways to enter a tranquil state is to get wet, aka drawing a bath or getting into the shower. As we go through the routine of washing ourselves or laying in soothing bathwater — focusing our thoughts on the feelings we’re experiencing, and incorporating all five senses — the motion can get our whole body to agree it’s calming time.

Doing this can take away all the distraction, stress, and preoccupation that can make sex feel like a to-do list.

Another big component of sex during this month? You’re more open-minded.

Maybe it’s because you’re in a location that’s temporary, or far from your daily life, but there’s something about this time that gives people the courage to try new things that seem out of place at home.

To me, being open-minded translates because we expand what “sex,” “pleasure,” or even sexual goals look like can be the key to transforming the kind of sex you’re having to the kind that you want to be having.

Think about the things that turn you on. What about them is so arousing and appealing to you? Even if you don’t play out the exact acts in bed, you can still embody the mindsets or elements of it in your life.

Trying new things can be intimidating because of one thing: we’re afraid of messing up and getting things wrong.

But the key to really enjoying experimental sex is giving yourself permission be okay with things going awry.

Even if things don’t go exactly how you planned — the position is too advanced for you, things rub the wrong way, or it just doesn’t get you off — that’s okay. It’s not a failure; it’s an opportunity to try something new and give you more information about what you do like.

Pride month is so tied to a specific mindset that is relaxed and way more forgiving. So, carrying that state of mind into sex gets you a lot closer to having vacation sex than other things might.

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