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Saturday, June 18, 2011

PAPA DON'T PREACH


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"Papa Don't Preach" is a dance-pop song by American singer and songwriter Madonna. The song was written by Brian Elliot with additional lyrics by Madonna, and produced by Stephen Bray and Madonna for her third studio album True Blue, released in June 1986. The song also appears remixed on the 1990 compilation album The Immaculate Collection and in its original form on the 2009 compilation album Celebration. The song's musical style combines pop and classical rhythms, and its lyrics deal with teenage pregnancy and abortion. It was based on teen gossip he heard outside Elliot's studio, which has a large front window that doubles as a mirror where schoolgirls from the North Hollywood High School in Los Angeles regularly stopped to fix their hair and chat.
Released as the album's second single in mid-1986, the song was a commercial success. It became Madonna's fourth number-one single on the Billboard Hot 100, and performed well internationally, reaching the top position in the United Kingdom and Australia. It was well-received by music critics and was frequently cited as a highlight in the album. The music video, directed by James Foley, shows Madonna's second image makeover, featuring her with a more toned and muscular body, and cropped platinum blonde hair. It portrayed a storyline, where Madonna is trying to tell her father about her pregnancy. The images are juxtaposed with shots of Madonna dancing and singing in a small, darkened studio, and spending a romantic evening with her boyfriend.
Shortly after its release, the song caused heated discussions about its lyrical content. Women's organizations and others in the family planning field criticized Madonna for encouraging teenage pregnancy, while groups opposed to abortion saw it as a positive pro-life message. Madonna has performed "Papa Don't Preach" in three of her world tours. The song also caused her first conflict with the Vatican, as she dedicated it to Pope John Paul II, who urged Italian fans to boycott her concerts during the Who's That Girl World Tour in 1987. In 2002, the song was recorded as a hard rock version by British singer Kelly Osbourne, and was included as a bonus track on her debut album Shut Up.
During the autumn of 1985, Madonna started writing and recording songs for her third studio album, True Blue. She brought back Steve Bray and hired a new songwriter collaborator, Patrick Leonard, to help her co-write eight of the album's nine tracks.[1] The album's first track "Papa Don't Preach", was written by Brian Elliot, who described it as "a love song, maybe framed a little bit differently".[2] The song is based on teen gossip he heard outside his studio, which has a large front window that doubles as a mirror where schoolgirls from the North Hollywood High School in Los Angeles regularly stopped to fix their hair and chat.[3] The song was sent to Madonna by Michael Ostin, the same Warner Bros. executive that discovered "Like a Virgin".[4] Madonna only contributed with some minor lyrical revisions, making "Papa Don't Preach" the only song in the album that she did not have a strong hand in writing.[4] In 2009, during an interview with Rolling Stone Madonna was asked by the interviewer Austin Scaggs as to why the theme of the song was meaningful to her. She replied saying,

"[The song] just fit right in with my own personal zeitgeist of standing up to male authorities, whether it's the pope, or the Catholic Church or my father and his conservative, patriarchal ways. [...] For 'Papa Don't Preach' there were so many opinions – that's why I thought it was so great. Is she for 'schma-smortion', as they say in Knocked Up? Is she against abortion etc."[5]
In the United Kingdom "Papa Don't Preach" was released on June 23, 1986. The next week the song debuted at number thirteen on the UK Singles Chart, before climbing to number one two weeks later.[27] It then spent three consecutive weeks at the top, stayed fifteen weeks on the chart,[27] and was certified gold by the British Phonographic Industry (BPI) in August 1986, for shipment of 400,000 copies of the single.[28] According to The Official Charts Company, the song has sold 645,000 copies there.[29] Across Europe, "Papa Don't Preach" was successful, topping the Eurochart Hot 100 for eleven weeks. It reached the top position of the singles charts in Belgium, Ireland, Italy, and Norway,[30][31][32][33] and peaked inside the top five in Austria, France, Germany, the Netherlands, Spain and Switzerland.[34][35][36][37] 
"Papa Don't Preach" was released in the United States in June 1986. It debuted on the Billboard Hot 100 at number forty-two,[18] and within eight weeks of its release, it had reached the top of the chart,[19] making it Madonna's fourth number-one single in the US.[20] It maintained the top position for two weeks, and spent eighteen weeks on the chart.[19] It also reached a peak of four on the Hot Dance Music/Club Play chart, and a peak of 16 on the Hot Adult Contemporary chart.[20] In October 1998, the single was certified gold by the Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA), for shipment of 500,000 copies of the single.[21] It placed at position 29 for theBillboard Year-End chart for 1986.[22] In Canada the song debuted at the fifty-three position of the RPM singles chart on July 5, 1986,[23] reached the top for two weeks in August 1986,[24] and stayed on the chart for twenty weeks.[25] It placed at position 13 on the RPM Year-end chart for 1986.[26]


For the music video Madonna sported a complete image makeover. She changed the heavy jewelry and make-up, and adopted the gamine look, which is notably applied to describe the style and appearance that Shirley MacLaine andAudrey Hepburn used during the 1950s.[38][39] In the video Madonna played a tomboy, dressed in jeans, a black leather jacket, and a slogan T-shirt with the caption "Italians do it Better". The video alternated between tomboy shots and those of a sexier Madonna with a more toned and muscular body, cropped platinum blonde hair, and figure-revealing clothing, consisting of a 1960s-style black bustier top and capri pants.[40] It was directed by James Foley, who worked with Madonna in her video for "Live to Tell",[41] produced by David Naylor and Sharon Oreck, and Michael Ballhaus was in charge of the photography.[42] Actor Alex McArthur was signed to play Madonna's boyfriend and the father of her child in the video. Madonna had spotted McArthur in a small role as a naive youth in the 1985 film Desert Hearts, and she thought he was a natural to play her mechanic boyfriend.[43] "I was out in the garage working on my Harley," said McArthur, "I answered the phone and a voice said, 'Hi, this is Madonna. I would like you to be in my next video.'"[43]
The music video starts with shots of the New York skyline, the Staten Island Ferry, and character close-ups.[44]Madonna plays a teenager, who is seen walking along a lane. Then it shows her thinking about her father, played byDanny Aiello,[40] and how much he loves her. She then sees her boyfriend, played by actor Alex McArthur,[43] coming along. The images are juxtaposed with shots of Madonna dancing and singing in a small, darkened studio. Madonna then moves away from her friends, who warn her from her boyfriend. She and her boyfriend spend a romantic evening together on a barge where they reflect upon their lives after watching an elderly couple. Then Madonna finds out that she is pregnant and after much hesitation tells her father. They have a few days of tension between them. Her father eventually accepts the pregnancy, and the final scene is a reconciliatory embrace between father and daughter.[44]
Georges-Claude Guilbert, author of Madonna As Postmodern Myth, compared her look in the video as a "combination of Marilyn Monroe, Jean Seberg and Kim Novak." He added that it was hard for him to believe that "[Madonna] did not know that she was going to cause a huge controversy with the video.... With such a song and video, she was throwing in America's face the image of a country ravaged by the abortion debate, which is far from being resolved."[45] Lynda Hart, one of the authors of Acting Out: Feminist Performances, felt that the video "alternated between two competing representations of Madonna... Charging coercion, both sides make the video as an invitation to a certain way of life, in the process denying it the stylistic invocation of a rhetoric of self-authorization."[46] At the 1987 MTV Video Music Awards, the "Papa Don't Preach" video won the Best Female Video award, and was nominated for Best Cinematography and Best Overall Performance.[47]

Friday, June 17, 2011

FOR NOEL...

My eyes could see you
My heart could feel you
My breath could sense you
I knew I loved you
Before I met you...

Thursday, June 16, 2011

IF WE ARE TRULY INDIVIDUALS...




We’re all born sexual beings. I am someone with a very lofty libido. I require both companionship and sex for happiness. I am  a one man's man and I need a partner I can depend on, that I can love and grow with. But I what about men that have a need to chase? You know the ones that just won't be satisfied being a one man, man. If we’re all truly individuals, then what works for one in a relationship isn’t necessarily going to work another.


¿WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON IT BEING MAN'S NATURE TO CHEAT?



Wednesday, June 15, 2011

¿WOULD YOU CHOOSE THIS LIFE? PART III

Regardless of what answer you come up with, the young man in the barbershop NOT wanting to drink solely from the homosexual straw, lifting the glass of milkshake to his lips WILL result in vanilla ice cream dripping off his chin, which only serves to reinforce his initial concern, right? Do you think he knows that he is on a journey into darkness when he kissed that girl? For a few surreal seconds his homosexuality simply melted away. It was as if he was in an athletic competition for the "you're not gay" trophy. But something else was happening while he kissed her with ‘homosexual’ lips, something both he and I know. We both know that he could NEVER enter her with a sense of devotion that dissolves all the fear that drew her to him.

And when he figures out that sexuality is TRULY an illusion, he will be in for a shock! Makes me think of that age old question: when a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? For there to be a sound, his ear, brain and heart MUST be connected to answer the question: what was that? Otherwise the sound might as well be a boy~ish looking girl who enjoys kissing a girl~ish boy.

Until he (and many of us) feel compassion AND understanding of self the pain of loneliness and the fear of hatred remain. There are no separate forms of life. Life is just wandering around looking @ itself, loving itself while we try to kill it. One day this boy will unravel this (un)mysterious element that has baffled the greatest minds. Does it take a GREAT mind to see behind the veil of this illusion?

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

¿WOULD YOU CHOOSE THIS LIFE? - PART II




Before you answer the question in PART I of this entry, riddle me this: what is this young man to do when he is trying to create his idea of a gay man when MANY of us struggle with a variety of generic, off-the-rack prototypes? What does it mean when you reflect on this question and realize that perception is a bitch? Many of our actions are either self-serving, thoughtless, shallow, cowardly, vain, vengeful, manipulative or all of the above; too many of us go through life thinking that the hetero man is the leading man. We buy into the stereotypes of who we are. The perception that gay men are weak man-less men, has become a reality for too many of us. I know, because I used to be that way and get why he is that way as well.





But contrary to popular belief gay men do NOT want to be women. Many of us like being male DESPITE what society says! The same society that will continue to live in the light of darkness until they open their minds and hearts and engage in an intelligent, unbiased conversation about same-gender-loving people. Doesn’t this young man’s action(s) display the trickle-down effect of homo hatred on our gay folks? I wonder which is better his effort to try to accept his sexuality and he potentially kills himself or  pretending to be ‘straight’. The societal sanctioned homophobia that has been a festering wound on us needs to be disinfected @ its core and heal once and for all. Because if they REALLY feel that we chose our sexual orientation, ask yourself did you choose yours? Gays, lesbians and bisexuals do not choose their orientation any more than do heterosexuals.





It is VERY sad that people have such hatred towards us; it’s as if LOVE is somewhat against their basic instincts. They believe they're better than homosexuals because they are heterosexuals…I guess they NEED to believe they are the higher life form.  But in the end, the ONE thing we all have in common is that OUR sexual orientation AND their personal identities are in conflict with the strict demands of traditional gender limited behavior. While it is clear that we all make up a highly diverse community, the hatred society has for us keeps many of us prisoners. How can this young man feel like it is okay to be with men when we have VERY little shining moments of optimism? In his mind, we are a small minority of the population. On our own we cannot force society to give us the equality that we deserve. Or can we?

Monday, June 13, 2011

¿WOULD YOU CHOOSE THIS LIFE? - PART I

I believe that there are two forces struggling to dominate our identity; reinvention and nostalgia. The first seeks to imagine and work toward a better future by changing the status quo. The second insists that things were better in the past and works to undo change. Oddly, the opposing forces have come to be represented by sexuality; gay OR straight. It's no secret where my sympathies lie; I am a BIG fan of reinvention. My life and this blog are testaments of that! Of course it helps that I didn't have a rosy past to feel nostalgic towards.  This brings me to the point of this entry; I'm confused by people who seek to return to a life that isn’t authentic.

I imagine someone living an unauthentic life waking one morning to a world in which their family is not like them and the relationships they seek are unlike any other. The public image of romance and love is not like theirs. They were raised believing that gay people are revolting, immoral, sick and even evil even though they know they didn’t choose their sexual orientation. All of these thoughts often play out in my mind, but what brought it to this place was a simple boy @ the barbershop. I’ve seen this young man @ ‘the club’ bumping N’ grinding his way to someone’s place for a ‘night cap.’ This young man dated a gay co-worker of his (said co-worker was on the chubby side and I know he was over the moon that someone took an interest in him sexually) while still holding onto his heterosexuality. How I know he was trying to hold onto his hetero-ness? Well @ the barbershop he brought a girl who I can assume is his gf and they were all over each other and he kept looking in my direction to see if I was watching.

I sat there thinking to myself how sad this boy must be inside because he feels forced to hide who he is as a result of society's condemnation. He is tormented by a yearning that presumably requires a lot of lubrication (I kid or do I?) because he loves the freedom ‘the club’ gave him. I imagine that his sexual orientation was shaped @ an early age. How can he picture himself in a world where is the subject of verbal and even physical abuse? This is the world gay, lesbian and bisexual persons find themselves in each day. If you were him, would you choose this life if you didn't have to do so?

Sunday, June 12, 2011

A MESSAGE OF HOPE


Pride Month officially begins and IN THE LIFE, the only independent voice for the gay community on mainstream television, sends out a message of hope by featuring a gospel choir raising spirits and awareness about HIV/AIDS. Messengers of Hope is an Oakland based gospel choir that uses gospel music as a means to go into the church and the community to engage people in conversations about HIV/AIDS. African Americans have been disproportionately affected by HIV/AIDS since the epidemic’s beginnings.

“When I tell people in the services that I am HIV positive, I see a bunch of different reactions. Sometimes I see shock on people’s face. I can’t tell whether it’s shock because they found out that I’m positive or they’re shocked that I said I was positive,” Ernest Larkins, Director of Messengers of Hope and Minister of the Allen Temple Baptist Church.

Maintaining the theme of celebrating one’s authentic self, IN THE LIFE also features Andre Cooley, a Mississippi Corrections Officer who was fired when his employer discovered he was gay and Bill Hendrix, Bio Team Leader of Dow AgroSciences in Indiana who has civil protections from 8am-5pm that disappear after leaving the gates of his company. Their personal stories provide a look at employment discrimination and how some corporations provide protections to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender employees in the absence of a federally accepted Employment Non-Discrimination Act.

“There are still a majority of states in the United States where it is legal to fire someone because of sexual orientation or gender identity. Even in those states that do have laws, the coverage of these states varies from state to state and in some cases don’t provide adequate protection. For example, most laws do not include protections for transgender people,” Chai Feldblum, Commissioner of the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC)