I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Sunday, August 12, 2012


I receive
many questions from people who want to know how to experience more fulfillment,
happiness, and meaning in life. They often express frustration that bubbles
over from a variety of sources, including not knowing what they really want,
confusion about which direction to go in, and worry about the obstacles that
rise up as they pursue their dreams.

At the root of all these frustrations is a misunderstanding about
who we really are and the nature of true fulfillment.

Who Am I?

Let’s begin with the question of who is the “I” that is seeking to
create your life. Take a moment right now and ask yourself Who am I? 
Jot down your answers on a piece of paper.  Many people will begin this
exercise by identifying their external roles in life, I’m a mother, a
doctor, a daughter, a Harvard graduate, a CEO, a triathlete, an artist,
so on. However, as they continue to ask themselves this question, the responses
will begin to go beyond the ego level to the deeper realm of the soul. I
am love. I am joy. I am spirit . . .

In order to create a life of genuine happiness, we need to realize
that we are all much more than skin-encapsulated egos. We are more than our
titles, positions, accomplishments, and relationships. Our true self is
multidimensional, unbounded, pure potentiality.

When you ask yourself What do I want?, it’s
important to know if you are listening to the voice of your ego or the voice of
your soul, because they have two very different visions of fulfillment:

While we have
all been conditioned to believe that the ego’s vision is practical and more
realistic, what the ego promises is an illusion – a will-o-the wisp that you
can chase all your life without ever coming close.  The ego’s vision of
fulfillment is unattainable because it is dependent on external conditions that
it ultimately can’t control.

The ego can’t compete with the soul’s vision of fulfillment, which
is based on your inner awareness. The soul holds out a kind of happiness and
fulfillment that doesn’t depend on whether outside conditions are favorable or
bad. This vision of fulfillment may seem more difficult, yet it unfolds
automatically when you live from the level of the soul.  Your inner
intelligence comes into alignment with the creative intelligence of the
universe, guiding you unerringly in exactly the way you need.

Of course, you can  manifest your ego desires using sheer
willpower,  but it takes lots of effort and  you may not feel as
fulfilled when you attain it as you  imagined you would. It’s like rowing
a sailboat against high winds and a strong current: you can do it with enough
effort, but if you harness the forces of the wind and current,  then the
journey is more comfortable and enjoyable.

Ego or Soul Desires?

Most desires are straight forward ego wishes. The natural impulse
toward action that flows from our true self will also express itself as desire,
but it will be an easy, gentle  preference that does not come from a
sense of lack or neediness.

The easiest way to evaluate whether your desire to create something
is coming  from your real self or your ego is to tune in to your body and
ask yourself 
Does this desire feel relaxed and loving? Is it coming
from a place that already feels good about itself? Do I want this for
others as well as for myself?

Keep in mind that creative drive isn’t facilitated by feeling like
you “should” create something, or that you ought to start a project or you’ll
regret it. When your inner dialogue is dominated by feelings of frustration,
self-judgment, or fear, your ego is trying to take charge. When your desire to
create something comes from a feeling of enthusiasm, inspiration, joy, and
fullness within, then you are in touch with your true nature and the guidance
that will help you create and experience fulfillment.

Tuning into Your Soul’s Desires and Purpose

As we have seen, it is important to learn how to think and desire
from your authentic self beyond your ego. From there, desire without
expectation is easy and  automatic. And as your experience of the soul
deepens, you will spontaneously find that you will desire from that level of
innocence and fulfillment.

There are a variety of practices that can help you connect to your
soul’s desires and purpose. Here are a few of the most powerful techniques you
can use:


When you meditate, you go beyond the mind’s restless, confused
state into a higher state that is clear and steady. This expanded awareness is
the birthplace of all your inspiration, creativity, and insights.

When you meditate on a regular basis, you cultivate inner calm and
peace  – not just during your meditation sessions but as you go about your
daily activities.  From this  place of centered awareness, you will
be in the best position to access the intuition and creativity to manifest your

Here is a simple meditation practice you can try right now:

Meditation on the Heart

Sit in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Now gently place
your attention on the area of your heart. As you breathe in and out naturally,
keep your attention there. Allow any feelings and sensations to arise and pass.
If your attention drifts away, gently bring it back to your heart. Try this
meditation for a few minutes and notice how you feel before and after the

Cultivate Clarity

Clarity means being awake to yourself and your true desires.
Instead of being overshadowed by external situations or events, in clarity your
awareness is always open to itself. You’re able to tell the true from the false
so that you can identify what you want to nurture and what you want to release
in your life.  

One effective way to cultivate clarity is to ask yourself the soul questions, 
am I? What do I want? Why am I here?
  Here is an exercise that
you might find useful in working with these questions:

1.   Think back
on those situations and projects where you excelled and had fun at the same
time. What were you doing and why did it make you feel good? What gifts do you
have that can serve others?

2.   Keep a
daily journal for ten days, asking yourself the questions above after
meditation and then writing down everything that comes to you.
Your passion is the force of evolution that drives your life energy, so don’t
suppress it by telling yourself that you can’t do it or that it is impractical.

3.   After ten
days you will have some good ideas to work with. Now list one or two action
steps that you can immediately take for each idea. Start with the smallest
manageable step, such as making a phone call, signing up for a course, or
getting the name of a mentor or someone who may be able to help you. The
important thing is to identify that current of energy in you and then give it
an outlet. Once it starts to flow, it builds its own momentum and creates its
own path forward.

The more clarity you achieve, the more you will find that the
universe is on your side, supporting your thoughts and intentions. Therefore,
focus on clarity, not on getting results. The results will come according to
their own rhythm and timing.

Practice One-Pointed Awareness

This is a mindfulness practice that will help  you create more
clarity and present moment awareness. Choose one simple activity that you do
every day, such as brushing your teeth, making the bed, or washing the dishes.
Instead of rushing, put your complete attention on this task. If your mind is
impatient or prods you to move on to more “important” business, ignore it. This
simple daily practice of focusing your awareness on one small activity can
create a powerful ripple effect that will expand your experience of one-pointed
awareness throughout the day.

As you become more aware, you will begin to notice many
opportunities  that in the past you would have overlooked in your hurry.
This is the phenomenon I describe as 
synchrodestiny– the ability to
use your attention, intention, and awareness to awaken to all the possibilities
that always surround you.

Connect to Nature

Your body, mind, spirit, and the environment all arise from the
infinite field of pure potentiality. By spending some time in nature each day,
you can awaken to the inspiration, creativity, and intelligence that flow
through everything.

  • Walk barefoot on the earth for a
    few minutes. Feel the nourishing energy of the earth flowing into your
    body through the soles of your feet.

  • Take a walk along the ocean or
    another natural body of water. Let the cooling influence of the water
    permeate you.

  • Stand in the sunshine, allowing
    the light and warmth to infuse your being. Acknowledge the life-giving
    energy of the sun.

  • Walk in a beautiful park, forest
    or other area with lush vegetation and breathe in the life force of the
    plants. The best times to do this are right before dawn and right after

  • Go to a park, a forest or even
    your backyard and listen to the healing sounds of the natural world―the
    buzzing of bees, the wind blowing through the leaves and the calls of wild
    birds. If you live in a city where you can’t regularly hear natural
    sounds, try listening to recordings of rain forests, ocean waves or

  • Gaze up at the moon and stars at
    night, allowing your awareness to expand into the heavens and beyond.

With love,



"Nothing is clearer than the tragic fact that Africa, like the
rest of the black world, has only the illusion of being free and
independent....It is still as economically enshackled as it ever was, in some
respects more so. The study of this period and the conditions it presents will
confront the Blacks of the world with the final challenge. The response to that
challenge will be the test of the genius of the race. The outcome and, indeed,
the whole future of the race depends upon the extent to which we have become
intellectually emancipated and decaucasianized enough to pioneer in original
thinking. Those who do become free in fact, will no longer readily grab the
white man's ideologies and systems whether capitalism, the Western version of
democracy, or communism, without a critical review and analysis to determine
whether Africa's own traditional system, when updated, may not be truly
superior and best fitted to meet the aspirations of the black world."

Chancellor Williams

The Destruction of
Black Civilization


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About This Movie:

Following in the wake of Jason
Bourne's burning of the Blackbriar program in The Bourne UltimatumTony Gilroy's new entry in
the franchise pulls back the curtain on the other CIA intelligence programs
that have been operating in the shadows and now fear exposure; specifically,
Operation Outcome, a highly advanced iteration of the original Treadstone

After Colonel Eric Byer (Edward Norton)—operator
of Outcome and mastermind behind all of the assassin programs, including
Treadstone—discovers that Bourne has exposed Blackbriar, he is forced to
liquidate his own program, eliminating all knowledgeable personnel. But when an
asset from the program escapes, the CIA will find they have a whole new
liability on their hands: agent Aaron Cross (Jeremy Renner).
With Byer and the full power of the CIA hot on his heels, Cross will have to
use every skill in his arsenal to avoid capture and stay alive.

What Is Good About The Movie:

When agent
Aaron Cross plunges into icy waters in the opening moments of the brisk and
satisfying spy thriller The Bourne Legacy, the scene serves two
purposes: to commemorate the superb and well-loved trilogy that came before, in
which Matt Damon, as the man called Jason Bourne, made his first appearance in The
Bourne Identity
, fished out of the Mediterranean Sea with bullets in his
back; and to baptize Jeremy Renner as the action-hero heir worthy of leading
the franchise forward.

The symbolism works elegantly. Renner's Cross is a conflicted hero
built to take advantage of the Hurt Locker star's best qualities as
an actor — his default intensity, the way he conveys that complicated mental
calculations are taking place under cover of watchful stillness, even
underwater. Director and co-writer Tony Gilroy (Michael Clayton) has
custom-tailored The Bourne Legacy for the present by opening
up the narrative. Unnerving scenes of backroom operations among shadowy
governmental and private-enterprise types reveal the machinations of a much
bigger, more nefarious tangle of players than previously imagined. There are
mystery men running the country — and, by remote control, the world. This movie
recommends worrying.

What Is Bad About The Movie:

When I first heard there was
another Bourne installment, this time without Matt Damon, I figured someone
either wrote a good script to carry on a new story line, or the studio wanted
to churn out a guaranteed cash cow under the title of a proved and successful
action series. Writer/director Tony Gilroy wrote the scripts for the first
three Bourne films, but this is his first time behind the camera in the series.
After enduring a painfully slow beginning, The Bourne Legacy reveals it is set
at the same point in time as The Bourne Ultimatum.

Unfortunately, The Bourne
Legacy noticeably lacks the quality script and thrilling action sequences of
that first film. The chase scenes in the new film are edited so atrociously,
especially during motorcycle elements, that they are almost impossible to
logically follow. You know they are weaving in and out of traffic, there are
near misses, and flying bullets; but there are only quick glimpses of that on
the screen in the midst of the unsteady camera work and split-second jump cuts.

Renner and Weisz do
their best to remake a film which was already pretty great. Yes, they have new
names and faces, but they are running from the same agency, dodging the same
bullets, but this time they have a higher chromosomal level on their side. The
Bourne Legacy has potential, but I can’t help but wonder if it will be known as
that film that derailed the very respectable Bourne franchise.

Overall Grade:



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