HURT CHILD...WOUNDED ADULT...

I often find it amazing how humans are like stained glass windows. When the sun is shining through them, they glow brightly and sparkle…But when the sun goes down, and it is dark and gloomy outside; their true beauty is revealed…only if there is light from within. And each one of us was born with this light, but somehow…someway over time we find that we have become THE epitome of the wounded child, which leaves us damaged as adults…If only leaving our childhood homes and embarking upon the journey of adulthood, resulted in us effectively removing ourselves from harmful and self-perpetuating familial patterns…

I’ve met a lot of wounded persons over time, but none has struck me HARDER than the gay man. Much of our emotional sensitivity towards each other is based on our past experiences instead of our present reality. If we are to look @ ourselves, we will find that our behaviors and beliefs are still those that were impressed upon us during our youth by our parents, grandparents, and the generations that preceded them. We undoubtedly perpetuate the fear of NOT being enough, NOT knowing who we are AND establishing secrecy patterns. Is it a BIG mystery that we treat ourselves the way we do?

We’ve been blindsided by life, and are afraid to close our minds to all we know as children, but is that serving us as the adults we are? The courses we undertake in earth school are both painful AND pleasurable, and as taxing as they are, we OWE it to ourselves to reap the rewards! I know that struggling with the cumulative effects of being who are isn’t easy and there is NO easy way to be alive, but what choice do we have really?

I know that each and every one of us is different, but if we want to heal and be okay with ourselves, we need to divest ourselves of all dark forms of familial energy and carry forth a new loving energy day by day. This is THE ONLY way we can transcend the long-standing patterns of limiting beliefs, irrational behavior AND emotional detachment. We HAVE TO question the values that others put on us AND earnestly examine what impacts they have on our souls…It is only when WE understand the HURT CHILD inside, we can begin to heal the WOUNDED ADULT we are…But in order to make this change, you have to give your permission to change…

ISN’T IT ABOUT TIME THAT WE DEAL WITH THE HURT SO THE WOUNDS CAN NOW HEAL IN ORDER FOR US TO STOP LIMITING OUR INDIVIDUAL POTENTIAL? THERE ARE TOO MANY OF US WHO ARE TRUE PIONEERS, BUT WE CANNOT FACE OURSELVES BECAUSE IT HURTS TOO MUCH, BUT AS THEY SAY “NO PAIN, NO GAIN.”  IF WE CAN LEARN TO LOOK WITHIN & HEAL OURSELVES, WE CAN GAIN A GREATER CONTROL OVER OUR LEVEL OF PEACE N’ HAPPINESS…THIS CAN ONLY HELP US TO INTERACT MORE DECISIVELY WITH EACH OTHER…