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Sunday, August 11, 2013


There is something magical about the experience of “falling in love.” Psychologically it is their feeling function that gets activated when two lovers first meet. Emotions burst forth and sparks fly that ignite a passion and an unmistakable bliss. When you are with that person, you are “in heaven,” so to speak. And when you are away from them, you are longing for the next encounter. As the song says, “Suddenly life has new meaning to me,” and they are transported into the realms of the Gods (the archetypes). In our culture today, our movies provide us plenty of examples of this experience so much so that we all yearn for it. We mistakenly call this love, and many find themselves searching for their other half, their “soul mate.” We believe that this is what will complete us and that this magic is what we feel to truly value another person.

Often we will fall in love and get involved in some very unsuitable, destructive and soul-destroying relationships, but these, too, are showing us aspects of our shadow. In order to grow and be a whole person, we need to become aware of what is really happening. When someone is “into us”, we need to ask ourselves, “Is it love or is it just projection?” Two people won’t know until time gives them a chance to see who each other actually is and this requires self-honesty and self-disclosure.

There is no other way to see these parts of us, so it’s inevitable that they will be projected. The intoxication and the intensity of the experience are clues that we are into a projection. Ordinary human beings do not evoke the instant passion that “love at first sight” evokes.


  1. I needed to read this just now. Currently, I'm working on loving myself. I want to love myself as deeply as I have loved others in the past, ya' know? Until I get to that level, I'm single as a dollar bill...

    Good post!


  2. I love falling in love. I always have to remind myself that it is not really love, but having all those gushing emotions can be so fun....

    1. I am like this comment

  3. But the important thing is to try to love :)) At least once in your life, right?
    nice new layout.
    Hey man happy holidays

  4. one grows love time by time, at first it's only infatuation, a mutual liking.

    my last post:

    1. yep time does grow love



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