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Tuesday, August 27, 2013

LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS & THAT SPARK

You have been in couple for a while, things aren't as exciting as they once were, and you "find yourself" being pulled by someone other than your partner...what do you do?

Do you walk away from your new found attraction? Stop every form of communication. Not a phone call, not a lunch, not an email? Not so much as a fantasy?

Do you share your concerns with your partner and together decide to do whatever you can to improve the relationship? Do you go to counseling, recommit, dedicate your time, energy, and love to your relationship?


Do you say I am a man with needs and this other person sparks something in me and go for it? Do you date him and end things with your partner or do you see him on the side? 

8 comments:

  1. Very vital questions for so many people. I know a couple who have been together and really love each other for about 35 years, but for the last 30 they have each done their own thing sexually!

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    1. well my relationship is just going on 6 years and we haven't gotten to that place yet

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  2. It all depends on the couple. You know I really do not believe in monogamy. But if you have made a verbal commitment to your partner to only have sex with him..you should abide bu it...or get out.
    The most long term same sex couples I know all have one thing in common... the have sex with others outside their relationship.

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    1. I like that you don't believe in monogamy but you feel there should be honor in it if it is agreed upon in a relationship

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  3. Sorry, I can't help here. My relationship was an "open" relationship. My partner knew that I had sex with other men, but never objected. Our relationship lasted 23 years! It only ended when he died, six years ago. I loved him as I have never loved another person.

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    1. well that worked for you guys and I am glad you got love and be loved :)

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  4. Not an option for me in any way since it would completely destroy my partner. When things get rocky, and they have, I tough it out.

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