I’m the big
black muscle guy that looks like a top, I am in my
early 20s and I’m beefy as hell, so most men think I’m in my early 30s. I’m
also a complete submissive bitch, but most guys don’t expect that out of me.
I’m not opposed to topping, but I only like to top guys that I know will be around
for a while (like a FWB or a romantic interest). I’ve been told I’m handsome
and all of that, but all guys want is the lightweight twink they can throw
around. All of my hookups have called me a big dude in a good way, but it seems
like it isn’t the dream. Plus I’m black so everybody thinks I’m a top as well.
I want you to
know that when you approach me at the bar or online and you assume I’m a top,
or that I’m hung, or that I’m hung and a top, I feel dehumanized. “It feels
like you’re reducing me to a thing that can perform a service for you, not like
a mutual bond, the way sex should be.
“When you’re a
black gay guy, bottoming is a political stance. It’s a small way of saying, I
don’t want to play the game of upholding dehumanizing stereotypes and images. I
don’t want to confirm media and cultural stereotypes about black ‘virile’
masculinity.”
Have you ever
been in this situation?
What are your thoughts?
What advice would you give this person?
I believe there's someone for everyone 😉 So it fits perfectly for both 👌🏻
ReplyDeleteThe right way IMO is to be optimistic, let all the negative experiences go & go forward 🙂