BREAKING COMMUNITY CYCLES (THE START OF CHANGE)

 

Breaking your community patterns may be the most important work you do and the most challenging.

It is easy to believe that in living our various queer communities and embarking upon the journey of finding who are will effectively removed us from harmful and self-perpetuating patterns. In looking closely at ourselves, however, we may discover that our behaviors and beliefs are still those that were impressed upon us during our youth. We may find ourselves unconsciously perpetuating cycles of the previous queer individuals, such as fear of having enough, not showing affection, and secrecy patterns. Yet the transmission of negative patterns from one community to the next is not inevitable. Breaking the pattern is a matter of overcoming those values imprinted
upon us long ago in order to replace them with pure love, tolerance, and conscious awareness.

Even if you have struggled with the cumulative effects of trauma that were an expression of established modes of living and a reflection of the strife for those that came before us were forced to endure, you can still liberate yourself from the effects of that history. The will to divest yourself of old, dark forms of familial energy and carry forth a new loving energy may come in the form of an epiphany. You may one day simply realize that certain aspects of your early life have negatively affected your health, happiness, and ability to evolve as an individual. Or you may find that in order to transcend long-standing patterns of limiting beliefs, irrational behavior, and emotional stiltedness, you have to question your values and earnestly examine how your queer community has impacted your personality. Only when you understand how family cycles have influenced you can you gain freedom from those
cycles.

In order to truly change, you must give yourself permission to change. Breaking these patterns is in no way an act of defiance or betrayal. It is important that you trust yourself implicitly when determining the behaviors and beliefs that will help you overwrite the things that limits your individual potential. Many of us are on the earth at this time to break these cycles, for we are true pioneers. In breaking negative cycles, you will discover that your ability to express your feelings and needs grows exponentially and that you will embark upon a journey toward greater well-being that can positively impact generations to come.