Maybe you don’t like that they
are studying every night?
Maybe you don’t like that they
are stressed about job applications?
Maybe you don’t like holding
space for them to process their emotions regularly?
But you accept it. You accept
them where they are in their journey. You acknowledge them.
You may ask for behaviour
modifications, like:
“Hey, could we place the
studying on pause tonight?”
“Hey, I see you are stressed
but I also need some of your attention.”
“Hey, maybe a therapist would
be better for this job than me.”
You admire and respect their qualities
without thinking they need a complete upgrade.
The Biggest Difference: You are
not trying to change your partner.
I say listen to your gut. If
you feel anxious. If you feel insecure. If you feel unsure. Something is off.
You don’t need to know more than that. If you feel calm, secure, and assured
everywhere else in your life but lack that consistency of feeling when in relationship
with this human, then they probably are not the human for you.
And do you really want your
“person” to be the person who makes you feel so uneasy?
Honour that something doesn’t
feel right. Honour your intuition. Your body is speaking to you.
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