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Thursday, April 3, 2014

HOW TO HAVE A BETTER ORGASM


How does your ORGASM feel? Many say they have NOT experienced a satisfying orgasm. That could be for a number of reasons. Find out why and HOW you can get (and GIVE) better orgasms. Too often, we become so fixated on having a mind blowing, earth shattering, toe-curling orgasm that we forget how nice it can be to be teased, touched, enticed, caressed, taken, enthralled, and compelled sexually.
Sure, chandelier-hanging sex “til the cops come knockin” is cool, but for many people, the challenge of reaching orgasmic ecstasy remains elusive.
Here are a few tips that you may want to consider:



1. Be present. Be “in the moment” and try not to think about work, kids, bills, or the challenges of life.  Focus on what feels pleasurable for you.

2. Be patient. Trying to rush your climax may only delay it from happening. Give yourself as much time as you want to enjoy being sexy for yourself and/or for your partner.

3. Be creative. Having only one way to “get there” may get old over time. Be willing to experiment with different positions, different times of the day, various places, and using toys.

4. Be free to be you. Know what turns you on/off. Do you like seductive talking? Maybe wear sexy clothes? Do you prefer the lights on/off? Firm or soft body caressing? Does spontaneity turn you on? Figure out what it takes you “there.”

5. Be willing. Be willing to teach your partner about what you like and what you don’t like sexually. Your partner isn’t going to know unless you tell him/her what is sexy and pleasurable to you.  Some people prefer to be passionately kissed on their neck while others prefer to have their thighs,  calves, and feet caressed. Tell your partner what feels good and be willing to even show him/her what turns you on.

The Biggest Challenge…Is In Your Own Mind
The biggest challenge for my many of my clients is being comfortable with their own bodies.  Oftentimes, people feel shameful about their size, shape, or way that their body moves and this prevents them from surrendering themselves sexually to their partners.

Healthy relationships involve talking about how you feel about your body as well as how it impacts your sexual experience.
Consider sharing with each other what you like sexually, what you think about sexually, and how you feel as a sexual being in order to develop a deeper sense of intimacy.
Finally, you and your partner should take time out to discuss sexual expectations (e.g., frequency, protection from unplanned pregnancy and STIs, positions, etc.) for yourself and your relationship. Remember that your best sexual organ is your brain and that the dirty four-letter word that most couples fail to address with regards to sex is…TALK.

SOURCE: BLACK DOCTOR

4 comments:

  1. Great advice but I wish people did not suffer from the me syndrome. Too often people are only concerned with their own orgasm & could care less about satisfying the their are with especially during hkup, jump offs & drive bys. more then 1 in the bed

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    1. yeah kinda sad, I would think sex is the one the things we all do where we can get what we want

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  2. The best way to reach that toe-curling, mind-blowing orgasm is to take your time. Tease and tantalize.
    I do have to slightly disagree with Craig, though. When it comes right down to it: You are responsible for your own sexual satisfaction - and that includes an orgasm. Is it rude and selfish to think only of oneself during sexual encounters? Yes. But, by being so, you only cheat yourself. Half the fun is playing with the other person and getting them off is whipped cream on the sundae; watching a partner experience an orgasm, and knowing you helped cause it, can add to your own.

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