It’s 5:30 am,
and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing.
Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom.
Why is there
always so much to do and never enough time to get it done?
You grab your
phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half
awake. Knowing he’s not up, you send him a text message: “Good morning, baby.
I hope you have a wonderful day.”
This text
serves as two reminders: You want him to know he’s the first thing on your
mind. And, more importantly, he needs to realize that, regardless of how
stressful or busy your days are, he’s the priority.
It sounds so
perfect, but that’s not reality.
Instead,
you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and
maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your man on the way to work.
Relationships
these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean
anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and
there?
Something is
missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are?
Relationships
thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person
we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them?
We’ve
accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our
phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social
media.
Do you know
what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are
being cheated on every day.
When you
think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person
comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is
connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring
for said person. Once you find out, all trust is lost.
But think
about the concept for a minute.
Webster’s
Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the
use of deceit or fraud.”
Sure, sex is
cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think
you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day?
We experience
a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love.
Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become
so common?
This type of
cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.
You’ve given
your heart to someone and love him with every bone in your body, but you
have to beg for his attention. You sit back and watch this person post
status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can
comment.
You need to
take a minute to tell him he’s a beautiful being. Call him after work to say, “Get
dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”
Make an
effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.
The days of
holding hands, opening the car door, taking him out “just because,” sending him flowers just to get a smile and leaving love notes should never go out of style.
Focus on each
other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.
Appreciate
him, and show him how much he means to you. But, most importantly, put your
phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.
Wow....what an eye opening post!
ReplyDeleteOutstanding advice. Some things should NEVER be out of fashion. Love IS love, after all! Love and naked hugs!
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