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Monday, October 5, 2015

WE CHEAT EVERY DAY

It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom.

Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done?

You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake. Knowing he’s not up, you send him a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.”

This text serves as two reminders: You want him to know he’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, he needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, he’s the priority.

It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.

Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your man on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are?

Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media.

Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day.

When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person. Once you find out, all trust is lost.

But think about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.”

Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day?

We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common?

This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.

You’ve given your heart to someone and love him with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his attention. You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment.

You need to take a minute to tell him he’s a beautiful being. Call him after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”

Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.

The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking him out “just because,” sending him flowers just to get a smile and leaving love notes should never go out of style.

Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate him, and show him how much he means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.

2 comments:

  1. Outstanding advice. Some things should NEVER be out of fashion. Love IS love, after all! Love and naked hugs!

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