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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

¿WHAT IF SEXUAL ORIENTATION WERE A CHOICE?

It may seem an odd or off-putting question; it may strike you as offensive. That's not my purpose. Pressing some boundaries in the interests of justice is what I'm after.

Much of the growing support for marriage equality rests on an increasingly-held assumption among those in the West that we are, as to gender-identity, born as we find and largely acknowledge ourselves to be by our late pre-teens or earlier (and, sometimes, later). We say that we are innately gay, straight, or bi-sexual. I hold with the spreading consensus that we do not choose sexual orientation; I find it a somewhat surprising and good reflection of Justice that Western European and American majorities seem to get it.

Still, I've a question:

Were there still, today, among the majority here and in Western Europe, a more than simply lingering conviction that sexual orientation is chosen, wouldn't marriage equality remain a mandate for a just society?

If we rely wholly on the born-this-way argument for the recognition of marriage rights, if we primarily anchor our demand for equality in that argument, are we not, at least in a small way, suggesting that our LGBT friends and relatives aren't fully deserving of equality under law simply by virtue of the fact that they are, as we are, adult citizens?


I'm for equality under law. It's irrelevant to me and should be to you and to the law whether or not our LGBT colleagues, companions, and relatives ever chose to be who they are. 

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8 comments:

  1. sure, it's irrilevant! but BELIEVE ME: IT'S NOT A CHOICE!!!

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    1. you are SO right, something this deep can't just be about choice

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  2. Imagine this: tomorrow morning, all the gay people woke up and decided to be heterosexual, permanently. How would the religious extremists raise money then? Who would the GOP hate next? Much love!

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    1. something tells me that they know this and that's why they find as hard as they do

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  3. I wrote a post on this once. If you will pardon the blog-whore http://itsagaylife-jamiessmiles.blogspot.ca/2011/11/born-this-way-or-not.html

    It bothers me when people say things like "Well if I could choose I would be straight". Well, I get the why, but so long as we keep putting in our own minds, and those of youth coming out that gay is not the way we want to be, not something to be wished for, less than straight, we are placing ourselves as victims, rather than celebrating the diversity in humanity that we represent.

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    1. yep that's where I am, I all about diversity!

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  4. I'm always the odd duck, so let me say that my biggest regret in life is that I didn't learn to love myself for who and what I am decades ago. I have never been more at peace with myself than I am right now. Would I 'go back' if I could? Never.

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    1. you are not the odd duck, your path took you elsewhere :-)

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