Mentors are a very important component of our lives. During some point in our careers or other endeavors there is someone that has trod the path for us. All we need to do is follow the path they have made in order to achieve what we need to achieve.
Additionally, mentors provide us the guidance necessary to analyze situations and pursue the right path forward that suits our needs best. Mentors give us the encouragement we need in order to tread our own paths as well; not just follow a path that has been trodden by many others.
We all have a mission in life. It is the pursuit of that mission that propels us forward to seek the answers we need; to find the pieces of the puzzle that are missing in our quest for personal greatness. Mentors play an important role in that quest. We cannot achieve personal greatness in a vacuum of self.
In relation to queer persons, mentors are all the more important, since we are inherently consumed within self until we make that choice to come out and be who we are meant to be. Most times, queer persons come to the realization that they are who they are and then seek advice and counsel from others, from books or other publications to find out more about what it means to be queer. Unfortunately, many of the sources to which queer persons seek, are not the best ones to base their life decisions on.
Mentors are available if you seek them out. They are ready, willing and able to help you sift through your anxieties and fears. However, they cannot help you if you do not want to help yourselves.
I know from personal experience that a mentor would have been an asset to me. However, I was still fearful and not sure about the new path on which I was embarking and purposely sequestered myself and tried to figure things out on my own. This only created more anxiety, frustration and fear.
I would encourage you to seek out the confidence of someone to mentor you. It is so reassuring to know that there is someone else like you out there that has been where you are and has tread a path out of their closets. They have liberated themselves from their fake selves and are living their true essence. Find that person as soon as you can!