If you want a healthy two-way relationship
where you both get what you want, the biggest thing you can do is tell the
truth.
It seems simple, sure. But when
you think about it, your partner can’t possibly know your needs, wants,
feelings, etcetera unless you are truthful about them. Stifling your thoughts
and desires leads to unhappiness, but truth-telling leads to freedom.
Before you can
tell your partner the truth, it’s imperative you tell yourself the truth. You
might try to convince yourself you love skiing, for example, but if you truly
don’t, it makes things worse for yourself and for the relationship if you’re
dishonest about it.
Expressing
yourself freely is vital to getting what you want—because you want to feel that
your relationship is a safe place to do that. You want to be assured that you can
speak your truth, even if it means getting upset, and have your partner stick
by you and learn more about you from the experience. You want to feel
comfortable sharing your innermost thoughts—and you want to know that your
partner has a desire to discover how you tick and what it takes to help you
share your truth.
Telling the truth
about your feelings and thoughts needs to be mutual for both partners to be
happy in a relationship. So remember to be truthful with yourself, be honest
with your partner, and encourage your partner to do the same with you.
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