You’ll constantly hear gay men bitch about the pitfalls of dating – specifically gay dating – in the 21st century. But that won’t change the fact that two minutes later you’ll probably see them scrolling down their feed of guys on Grindr, why? Well, if you can’t beat them, join them. And it’s a sad truth that if you don’t board the app-wagon, then you get left behind in a trail of dust.
So we sign-up and browse, ’cause they’re convenient, everybody else is doing it, and messages/swipes give our validation a little daily boost. The trouble with conversing with 2-Dimensional profiles is that you often can’t get a sense for what kind of person they are. Text messages are often misconstrued because it can be how the reader interprets what is said. But when using these apps where casual sex is the norm, we should already have our guard up. Imagine if a guy walked up to you in a bar, and said “U hung?” or “Bareback?” – it goes without saying that you’d be like what the fuck? Before making a swift exit. But somehow because they’re hiding behind a screen, it’s acceptable?
Quite simply, because most of us aren’t looking to date. And we are red-blooded men after all, so when there’s sex on a plate, there’s often no qualms about saying no – especially if you’re horny and find the guy is attractive. But are we letting the convenience of casual sex, and the temptation of our animal urges override our judgement of our own safety?