Awhile ago I
came across the Gay Kama Sutra by Terry Sanderson that put this into
perspective for me. While the Kama Sutra advocates the uninhibited enjoyment of
the pleasures of the flesh, it also tries to help us understand a higher
purpose for those pleasures. I’m not sure how lofty Terry Sanderson’s ambitions
were in his remodelled Kama Sutra but I do know that my sex life improved, or
at least the awkwardness and failed attempts began to fizzle out.
Whether you are
in a long-term partnership, an open relationship, or are enjoying a life of
sexual freedom, here is some invaluable information on various positions that
can help create a healthy, happy and satisfying sex life.
Doggy Style
OK, so this one
isn’t rocket science and even as a teenager I could pull this off. The
receiving partner crouches on his elbows and knees, the penetrating one kneels
behind him – you get the gist? Kissing in this position is a bitch but it gets
the job done.
The Butterfly
This one is
complicated to explain. The top partner kneels and clasps the other to himself;
the bottom one should embrace him like a butterfly. The ‘butterfly’ partner has
to lean on his own legs and hold on with his hands. The ‘butterfly’ receiving
partner is now the leading one, he can control the pace, while the knelt
penetrating partner has to lean back on his arms.
Two Columns
To enjoy this
position, the lovers should have their buttocks on roughly the same level. They
may be different in height – so the passive partner should raise or lower
themselves to the level of the active one; he should interlace his legs with
his partner’s and stand on his own feet to make the position more stable.
Kissing in this position can be complicated but it’s worth a try.
The Small Lock
The receiving
partner is lying on his stomach. His buttocks are raised a little with a
pillow. The top lover is lying on the receiving one. Some pairs prefer to
change places after the upper top partner has his orgasm. In this case the
receiving lover becomes the penetrating one, but the position itself is the
same.
A Column and
Ivy
This position
means that the lovers stand face to face; the passive partner should lift his
legs and wrap them around the other’s hips. It’s better if the bottom partner
is much smaller and lighter than the top one, unless the top is particularly
strong! The top partner can clasp the other to his breast or move him back.
Face to Face
This is an
‘open’ position and one of my favourites. The bottom partner is lying on his
back, with his hips spread and knees bent; his lower back is raised with a
pillow. This position is the best for both kissing and other more intimate
caresses. If you don’t like the person you’re sleeping with then best to stick
to ‘doggy’.
The Folded Position
In the ‘face to
face’ position, the bottom lover should bend his legs until his knees touch his
chin.
Sitting
This can take
place when the penetrating partner is sitting on a chair or stool. His lover
rides him, resting his own feet on the floor. The position may be more steady
if the chair back is leant against the wall. This can be varied if the passive
partner half stands so that they can control the speed and friction.
Side
Doggy/Missionary
AKA ‘the lazy
morning sex’ position. After penetration, the penetrating partner can reach
around to stimulate the passive partner and ensure simultaneous orgasm for both
lovers. If both men have interlaced their legs, the position should be referred
to as ‘the clenched’ one.
On Top
The inserting
partner is lying under the receiving lover who should bend his legs at the
knees and place himself across his lover. Both lovers may also lie in something
like the 69 position, holding each other’s leg calves for the necessary rest.
A Crab
This one is a
little complicated. The active lover is lying on the floor on his back. The
passive lover is lying on the active one on his back. The active partner
penetrates the passive partner. After this they should simultaneously raise
themselves, resting on their arms and legs. This position is the best one to
stimulate the receiving lover’s prostate. But it may be rather difficult to
perform frictions because the upper partner is virtually hanging over the
other.
Thank you for the suggestions, buddy! Good ideas! Love and naked hugs, man!
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