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Wednesday, March 5, 2014

JUST E-MAIL ME: HELP! MY BOYFRIEND WON'T STOP TALKING TO HIS EX!

He's been dating someone for a year and everything is going great, except his new boyfriend's ex keeps calling and saying how much he misses him. When he finally spoke up and said it bothered her, his boyfriend got upset and now they're not speaking. What can he do about a boyfriend who won't stop talking with his ex?

My boyfriend, of a year is awesome, we have a really good relationship, share loads of interests in common, want the same things out of life and feel we can really make a go of things.
I have a problem with his last ex of nine years. They broke up over 18 months ago. Just a few months ago this ex was messaging saying how much he misses him, then things like he'd had an accident, cut himself etc (he self-harmed when they were together.) It made my boyfriend feel horribly guilty and he had to tell his on more than one occasion that this was not appropriate. Thankfully those messages seem to have stopped but he still hears from him pretty much every weekend asking him to meet up, which he declines mostly.

I don't believe he would ever cheat, or even go back wiht his ex. He's assured me he doesn't even miss him and cares about him only as a friend. He says he feels sorry that his ex still misses him so much after all this time.

I haven't said anything so far as I didn't want to appear jealous or untrusting but today I told him that it does bother me that his ex pesters him so much. Although he agrees it's irritating and says he understands my worrying, as he would if the situation were reversed, he doesn't seem to want to break contact or tell him to back off. We had an argument about it and I don't know if I should have said anything as he says he feels backed into a corner and now has to break off contact. We're not talking and it's upsetting as we've never really argued before and having him angry with me is unbearable.

Although I would be happy if he never spoke to his ex again, I don't want to start telling him who he can and can't see. I don't understand the need to be friends with an ex, maybe a catch up every now and then but I see no need for more than this.
Do I need to apologize for even bringing it up? Or is he being unreasonable and needs to resolve this with his ex? Please help me resolve this with him, I have no idea where to start!
Thank you!

What are your thoughts? 


What advice would you give this person? 

RUPAUL'S DRAG RACE: SEASON 6, EPISODE 2 - RUPAUL'S BIG OPENING PART 2


The Drag Race premiere continues! The other seven contestants entered the show, and the mini-challenge was a Mike Ruiz photo shoot. This time the queens had pillow fights with the Pit Crew guys— —and Trinity K. Bonet won—so she assigned boxes of props to use for the Main Stage Challenge, which was to create runway looks based on different party themes (toga, luau, St. Patrick’s Day, etc.). Trinity handed them out randomly, so there wasn’t any drama.

Speaking of “no drama,” Khloe Kardashian was the guest judge, and what is there to say about her anymore?…except she did discuss camel toes, and she explained how she has the biggest camel toe on Earth because her vagina is enormous. Delightful. Thanks for that mental image.

Let’s change the subject and get to the runway.

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