For some guys,
there's nothing hotter than secretive, anonymous midnight trysts. Sex with a
perfect stranger to never been seen again is definitely kinky in its own way.
And again, this should be interpreted not necessarily as a knock on hookup
culture, but my contention is that the best orgasms happen sometime after the
third date.
There's
something about that feeling of being deeply intertwined with someone, both in
flesh and in mind, that elevates the sex to a higher level. Penis length is
finite, but when you engage the heart and mind, you can go infinitely deep with
your partner. You can totally join together as one in that moment, and there's
nothing hotter than that.
Intimacy
requires letting down barriers. It requires getting to know each other for who
you really are. When you're having sex with a total stranger, you're only
showing each other parts of your selves. Sure, being naked and aroused next to
someone makes it hard to keep secrets. But revealing your dreams, your fears,
and your kinks--that's an entirely different level of being vulnerable.
Of course,
some guys are able to achieve these high levels of intimacy during brief random
hookups. And for them, that's great! But for most people, it takes time to get
there. But the sex is ultimately worth it. Anonymous or not, everyone agrees
that a lay with gusto is better than a disinterested handjob...
The dilemma... 🤷♂️
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