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Thursday, May 5, 2016


So what about age differences among gay men while single or involved?

Imagine you meet this guy; you both get along well, you start seeing each other often and going on dates. But there is one thing bothering you: there is a big age gap between you. You are in your early 20s and he is much older. Should you stop seeing him?

There is nothing wrong with a big age gap. Often the bane of mixed-aged relationships is not the age difference, but large chasms in life experience. 

Should a gap in life experience deter you from turning a frozen romance into the hot food bar? Definitely not. Just be aware that there will be times when you both see life through different lenses. After all, he's probably settled and you have a ton of life to live before you catch up. This can work if you consciously stay open to each others' perspectives.

Don't stress. Life has a tendency to work itself out. Your 30-something may be exactly what you need and you may be exactly what he's been missing. Keep your eyes open and give it a try. Take each day of this connection as a circular of excitement. Just be aware that as you grow your relationship might change.

1 comment:

  1. It can be really difficult when you have come out later (for whatever reason). Men your own age who have built a circle of comfort and normalcy in their lives shy away from with you and younger guys see you as some kind of newly out-of-the-closet dirty old man or sugar daddy. That's where I am. Life's can be a pretty unfair thing to happen to a person.



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