If you were looking for an example of how to be a horrible college
mental health counselor, look no further.
Nephi Niven was physically ill and depressed from keeping his
sexuality a secret and did what many young gay people do: He sought help. Nephi
recalls:
I told [the therapist] I was gay and I was thinking about coming out of
the closet. He listened thoughtfully and said he was glad that I had come and
then told me that I would need years of therapy. And I didn’t really understand
what he was saying at first. … He made it clear that gay people come from
violent backgrounds and are likely to be violent and abusive people and needed
lots of therapy.
Ironically, the therapist’s homophobia had
an unexpected result on Nephi:
I was very angry, and I started yelling at him, and I told him that
there was nothing wrong with gay people, and they weren’t sick, and they
weren’t gay because they came out of abusive families or situations, and they
weren’t abusers. And I grabbed my coat and ran out of the office, and over the
course of the next couple of weeks, I started to summon the courage to tell my
friends and my family.
And what did Nephi’s outspoken Italian mother have to say about it
all?
This is Nephi’s true LGBTQ story:
what stupid therapist!!!! fucking idiot!!!
ReplyDeletehow can you help when you are NOT trying to REALLY help?
DeleteGood for him! Thanks for posting this!
ReplyDeleteLOVE these kind of stories
DeleteProud of you Nephi! Great job in standing up and helping to educate one more person, which happened to be a uneducated and misinformed therapist. We have come a long way, but still have so far to go.Thank you for sharing your story with us!
ReplyDeleteI cherish each step made in our community and I know it will get better
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