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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

JUST E-MAIL ME: THE PROS & CONS BEING HOOKED ON HOOKING UP...


Hello,
I seem to be spending more and more time on my phone and internet lately, looking for hookups, but I’m having some doubts that this is all good.
Pro: I’m meeting lots of hot guys and having a lot of hot sex.
Con: I still am not in a relationship and want to have a boyfriend.
Pro: All my friends are doing the same thing and we have a lot of fun comparing notes.
Con: We don’t seem to talk about much else.
Pro: It gives me a rush and feels fun. 
Con: I think it’s eating up all my time.
Pro: It’s fun to be able to meet guys quickly, wherever I am.
Con: I had an accident with a condom breaking.

What are your thoughts?
What advice would you give this person?

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  1. Soul YaoiApril 10, 2013 at 12:23 PM

    Its all a matter of balance and want.

    You cant make someone fall in love with you or force yourself fall in love with someone else.

    Advice:
    1.I would advice to try to be more careful.
    2.Don't have sex to that point that you hate yourself the next day.
    3. Keep an open mind, Mr. Right-For-You might just be around the corner.

    All from experience that worked for me. Take it as your wish. :)

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 10, 2013 at 1:51 PM

      We all must go through this in our lives, sometimes more than once. GREAT advice!

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  2. jamiessmilesApril 10, 2013 at 2:19 PM

    I think the important thing is to be honest with yourself. If you are hooking up don't pretend it is something it is not. And there is no rule that says you can't look for a boyfriend if you hook up with guys. Hell, my partner was a hookup:P

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 10, 2013 at 7:05 PM

      No rule indeed! I met Noel on Black Gay Chat and here we are about 6 year later

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    2. jamiessmilesApril 10, 2013 at 11:31 PM

      Yeah,Chris and I were meant for a good night or two. Now we are. I love the dips of life. I would not trade how we met for anything other than maybe when my family asks how we met. Lol, a blow job in his car in a parking lot seems so unromantic, but hells, it worked for us.

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    3. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 11, 2013 at 12:24 PM

      sounds PLENTY romantic to me!

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  3. Queer HeavenApril 10, 2013 at 4:33 PM

    I agree with Jamie above... go ahead and enjoy the hookups! Sex is Sex and it is supposed to be FUN. The more you have the more the possibility you will meet someone you want to hookup with more than once.

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 10, 2013 at 7:07 PM

      I don't like when folks get in their heads so much when it cums to sex. I say do what you but be honest about why you are doing it, know how to separate sex just for sex sake and sex that can lead to more.

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  4. BearTalksApril 10, 2013 at 5:31 PM

    OK, here's my advice to this person:
    hookups won't run away, so why not trying to find something more serious? If it's not working - you can come back to hookups :)

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 10, 2013 at 7:08 PM

      TOO true, I think for many of though, hooking up cums SO easy.

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  5. CogitoEroSumApril 10, 2013 at 7:17 PM

    I'm in a situation now where I'm thinking of hooking up with this guy off of A4A. If so, he will be the second guy I've ever met up with from offline. So I'm too much of a rookie to answer this question fully. But I will say that if it is getting in the way of your every day living, then cut it back some. You don't have to quit it, just don't do it so often...

    -_Cogito

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 10, 2013 at 7:22 PM

      Good advice and I know of your situation and I know you will exercise caution

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  6. UnknownApril 10, 2013 at 7:58 PM

    It is your life and you must make the decisions! I'll be 79 next month. I look back and there are things that I wish I had not done or not done the way I did. But I had a great open relationship for 23 years - he died 5 years ago - I knew wonderful love for all that time. So you make your decisions. Hugz, Patrick

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 11, 2013 at 12:26 PM

      It is his and I like that you let him know that first and foremost. I feel he should be easy with himself and just let life flow.

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  7. UnknownApril 11, 2013 at 6:51 PM

    I don't think I'd have anything good to add that hasn't already been said. Main thing, though, try to be safe. Safe sex is a must! Also, filling voids can be tricky, especially when it comes to sexual needs vs emotional needs. Trust your gut feelings, but just be safe about it.

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    1. iama{GAY}tkeeper April 12, 2013 at 11:19 AM

      Yep safety is a MUST! I do wonder about his ability to know which need he is fulfilling.

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  8. UnknownMarch 9, 2014 at 2:11 PM

    RIGHT NOW I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP. MY CAREER AND RECOVERY IS MORE IMPORTANT TO ME. I RECENTLY MOVED TO A NEW CITY FOR A NEW JOB , NOW I AM IN A NEW APARTMENT AND ABOUT TO PURCHASE A NEW CAR. I DON'T HAVE THE TIME OR WANT THE TIME TO BALANCE A NEW RELATIONSHIP IN THE MIX. I GET HORNY ALL THE TIME, SO PRON HELPS BUT WHEN I WANT THAT HUMAN CONTACT I HOOK UP. IT WORKS FOR ME, NO DRAMA, NO COMPLICATED PERSONALITIES, NO SPENDING A NIGHT OUT ON DINNER. NO BS. IN AND OUT. I PREFER THIS FOR ME

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