When I think
about topping I honestly don’t give it much thought. Mostly I think, “I’m
horny…I need to fuck something” and generally the mindset is to find an ass
that catches my attention…get in, unload and get out. But to
effectively make your bottom beg for more, here are a few things that
every top should know:
1. Know your
Weapon
There’s nothing
more annoying to a bottom than a guy who seems to be unfamiliar with his own
dick. The “top” position is a position of dominance and power, it’s an
Alpha position. Confidence and self-awareness go a long way. Know
whether you’re average, hung or super hung. It’s really annoying when
you’re 6″ and you’re waving it around talking about your 10″ dick.
There’s nothing wrong with a healthy degree of confidence; there are plenty of
guys with 5″, 6″ and 7″ cocks who can make a bottom’s eyes roll back in their
head. Be confident and be realistic.
2. Bottoms
are like Snowflakes
Sexuality is
complex. The human body is complex. Understanding that will get you
miles ahead of the game. There are a lot of different kinds of
bottoms. Some bottoms like to be thrown around and slammed on the bed,
fucked senseless and left in a pile of cum. Some bottoms like to be
aggressively fucked and other bottoms like to aggressively use their ass to
work a hot load out of you. Some bottoms like to push their own limits;
they want you to fuck them as hard as you possibly can. Other bottoms
like slow, sensual fucking – for them it’s the buildup of energy and chemistry
leading to the climax that gets them off. It’s always important to
understand that a bottom’s main job is to get you off…how they do that is what
you have to navigate through. Getting a little bit of information before
sliding in can help you get the most out of the guy you’re fucking.
3. Fantasy vs.
Reality
In the fantasy
you see the way a guy is looking at you, walk out of the club, slam him up
against the wall, pull his pants down and stick your dick up his ass. You
fuck him hard and fast until you unload deep inside him. Then you slap
his ass and head home. Realistically though, there’s some preparation
that goes into bottoming and understanding that can help you. Food
usually takes about 20 – 30 minutes to digest…give or take. Different
kinds of foods are processed differently in the body. If you go out and
enjoy a nice garden salad for dinner…chances are your body won’t have that much
waste as most salads are healthy. If you go out and eat Burritos, Fajitas
and Beans then you’ll definitely want to wait until your body has processed all
that or it’s going to be your Willy Wonka in his Chocolate Factory and that is
NOT exciting. Bottoms need to know their own bodies; they aren’t just
magically ready to fuck at the drop of a hat. Make sure they shower and clean
and douche before you get in there. It’s just the realism of the act.
4. You better
work, b*tch
I know…#s 1, 2
and 3 are blah blah blah. But it’s important to know that stuff.
Now…lube is important. People use spit and that’s fine; it’s a lubricant
but it dries up fast so you have to reapply. Water based lubes are fine but some guys don’t like
them because their skin absorbs the moisture too quickly and they have to
reapply a lot. Oil based lubes work better for them and they might work
better for you. Don’t be stingy with the lube; your ass doesn’t generally
produce natural lubricant. There is a mucus that men’s bodies produce to
help facilitate bowel movements, but this isn’t the same as lube. I usually
apply lube on the hole and around it and on the globes of the ass because
there’s a lot of friction happening when you’re fucking. Then I lube up
my shaft and head and get it real slick. Then…well…I slide on in.
Being a good top
isn’t just sitting there expecting them to do all the work. A bottom
might be aggressive, but mostly I’ve found that the position lends itself to a
certain level of submission. Even an aggressive bottom will give in if
you embody that Alpha energy and slam fuck him. Remember that it’s about
THEM getting you off, not just about YOU using them to get off. They get
you off by letting you fuck their hole. We get off by using that hole
however they like it. It’s a symbiotic relationship, whether
it’s long term or just something you connect with for a night.
Have fun boys!
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