My other-half and I were having a candid conversation about sex (as
we often do) and the topic of being honest about sexual experimentation came
up. He said pretty much all of his male friends and acquaintances (regardless
of their current sexual orientation) have experimented or “messed around” with
the same sex when they were younger.
These activities could have taken place with brothers, other
relatives, or friends. The point he made was that if men were more open about
their sexual exploration and experimentation that they partook in when they
were younger, views about homosexuality would be more relaxed and less rigid.
This could lead to less men being in the closet and less men having destructive
regressive sexual dysfunctions. I disagreed.
I think its common knowledge that many children explore each other
sexually, not for sexual reasons but out of curiosity. Isn’t that what “playing
doctor” was all about when you were younger? I think adolescent sexual
exploration and experimentation is not a true crystal ball or indicator of what
one’s sexual orientation will be when they become an adult but is a part of
fulfilling youthful sexual curiosity…which most psychological professionals
will tell you is natural. In my opinion this is why statements like “it’s just
a phase” or “you will grow out of it” are made by parents and authority figures
when teenagers and young adults discuss their sexuality (homosexuality).
In their minds eye and logic; as you get older, you should know
better and therefore do better. Being sexually attracted to the same sex is a
phase that is a byproduct of being a mischievous kid or a rebellious teenager.
Kinda like stealing candy or doing drugs; it’s something to grow out of as you
mature. This societal mindset in conjunction with religion, insecurities or
rigid sexual views are some of the reasons a lot of adult men would never admit
to their youthful sexual inquisitiveness as not to be labeled “gay” or a
“homo”, even though as an adult they fall within the heterosexual side on the
sexual scale.
What are your thoughts?
Do you tend to lean towards my old man’s mindset on this topic?
Is this a chicken and egg type scenario?
I agree with both of you!
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