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Tuesday, December 3, 2013

JUS' E-MAIL ME - DIAGNOSED: BEING HIV+ OVER & OVER

I’ve been positive for over 13 years now. I got HIV in a way that I thought is not too common and I never expected that 13 years down the line, I would still have problems accepting my status but well, there we are.
I found out eight months into a relationship that lasted over a decade. My partner got diagnosed a day later and neither of us knows who brought it into our relationship. During our relationship, because we were both positive and together for so long, I quickly came to terms with my status. He encouraged me not to tell anyone and I pretty much got on with it. The problem is, we’ve now split up and I am finding it really difficult to deal with disclosing my status to friends and potential partners.
I recently met a great guy but I ended up dumping him after only six months of dating - the main reason; I was positive and couldn’t bring myself to tell him. We’ve kept in touch and he now wants me back but the feeling that I lied to him holds me back. Relationships should be based on trust, right? But I can’t help it; the feeling that he will reject me is a huge factor that I just can’t handle.

Earlier this year I started counselling to help me face my HIV. Even though I’ve been positive for so long, the protective bubble that was my relationship has now burst and it’s like being diagnosed all over again. I'm finding it difficult being single and going on dates. I am shocked by the number of guys that want me to bareback them. I don’t want to put anyone at risk but I’m increasingly feeling under huge pressure not to use condoms. What’s more mind-boggling is that many of these guys are in their early 20's and only once has someone asked for my status. Young guys these days just don’t seem to care. I started using drugs as a way of escapism. Drugs make me lose my sexual urge so I now take them on a daily basis, to avoid the need to have sex and face all this pressure.

My counselor says that my status is my business and I should tell people when I'm ready to. Perhaps he is right? Although I do feel like I'm entrapping guys and once they have fallen for me, they could face a situation where they have no choice but to accept me?


What are your thoughts? What advice would you give this person? 

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OLYMPIC DIVER TOM DALEY COMES OUT


British Olympic diver Tom Daley revealed in a YouTube video today that "I still fancy girls, but right now I'm dating a guy and I couldn't be happier."

Daley said he met a man this spring and something "just clicked, it felt right." He opted to post a YouTube video because "I didn't want to get my words twisted, I wanted to put an end to all the rumors and speculation."

London's Mirror had reported in an interview in September that Daley had said, “I think it’s funny when people say I’m gay ... I laugh it off.” The 19-year-old Olympic diver had said, “I’m not. But even if I was, I wouldn’t be ashamed."

In his YouTube video, Daley referred to an interview without naming the media outlet.

"Recently I was misquoted in an interview, and it made me feel really angry and frustrated and emotions I have never felt before when reading something about myself," he said. "For me, honesty is something that I really do believe in. And I have always been honest. I may have been vague in some of my answers but I have always been honest."

At the 2012 Summer Olympics, Daley won the bronze medal for the United Kingdom in the individual competition. He's now training to compete for his country in Rio in 2016.

SOURCE: THE ADVOCATE 

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